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What you're about to here is a
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conversation between Esther Perel and Trevor Noah.
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It was recorded in front of a
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live audience at South By Southwest on
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the Backstage. Good.
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Morning everyone Hello! Hi
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Trevor. Highest a whole you. We're
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going to be talking about states raid leader, but
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I have a lot of states right now. I.
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Think we're gonna come adjust your microphone and a
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second? Yeah, See,
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I'm sitting Read: a pro. Easy
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use. You hear how I sound?
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A new I mean A. This is
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what I do all the time. so
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I have an intimate relationship with microphones
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and speakers. Okay, nine
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hundred people have intimate relationships with
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people. You
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should try it out. This
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episode of Where Should We
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Begin is very different for
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me because you are. A.
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Guess we are going to be in
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conversation. And. I thought
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why talk we the comedian.
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I nailed. Fun thing that
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comedians are profits. Who. To
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speak, the unspoken skewered the prejudices,
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highlight the hypocrisies and particularly at
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this moment in time To talk
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about the use of Uma, the
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role of humor is like conversation
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that I was very much looking
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forward to. Why did you accept
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to talk to me. I'm
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because I wanted a free
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therapy session. And
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I want it Stood in front of strangers. That's
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Hots. Up. To
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was loved learning from you. you know?
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we always have wonderful conversations whenever we
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speak and. I. I I
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was feel. That. Every discipline,
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whether it's an arts or otherwise, can
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contribute or touches of a distance in
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some way, shape or form. So when
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I, when I speak to an art
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historian, yacht or conversation earlier, I learn
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something about comedy from it's If I
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speak to you know, a linguist a
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learn something about comedy from it's and
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it doesn't even have to apply to
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comedy. but I just find anyone who
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spends a lot of time in their
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fields. Has. Learned certain things that
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are clickable to almost any field and
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any space. And so you know. I
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don't think you can talk about comedy
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without. Talking. About Psychology I don't
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think you can talk about comedy or the
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relationship comedians have with an audience without thinking
3:34
like a therapist. And so I thought, what
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better conversation to have them with somebody who
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I think is is you know at the
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top of their fields. About.
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Comedy and then everything that's not comedy him
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and with the to overlap with of of
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why not. So you
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know: comedy? luster humor?
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Is always been a part of
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the cultural and political landscape right
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to the gladiators. Rome. Before
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they went to their last
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sites they did receive with
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funny stories. That blows my
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mind. That. There is
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another one like. The they do this on the walls we
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were some the worse as they. Would it's they
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would s It was nets
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imagery and and and statements
4:18
that basically. A.
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Highlights: It's what I think is one of the
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things that we don't awesome think about when we
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talk about humor which is that is it is
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our ultimate freedom. Have read
4:28
decides the perspective that we
4:31
will take on some. On.
4:34
It's a defense philosopher. Beck's and who
4:36
really roads a lot about Schumer spoke
4:38
about it as the ultimate freedom and
4:40
book. Katsu roses examine wondering the black
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Plague ahead. He has already storytellers at
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stake In the midst of darkness in
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the midst of the hell did his
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last two years So I wanted to
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ask you is the how does that
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sense and speaks you and what do
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you see is the rule of Uma.
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We have wars right now. we have
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is that palace and we have Ukraine.
5:02
We have Sudan. We have the prime
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of crisis. I mean, we have a
5:06
lot of things to cry about. seven
5:08
and you'll make the laugh. About. Them
5:10
What? I think? You know it's It's interesting
5:12
that you say you can create your reality
5:14
because. I think lost
5:16
A is strange in that's.
5:19
It if we think of all the
5:21
emotions of that were able to express
5:23
will feel. One of
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the things about last others particularly interesting
5:27
to me is it's one of the
5:30
few emotions that robs your pain of
5:32
it's power. Yes,
5:34
Germans. yeah so if if somebody is doing
5:36
something terrible to you and you cry. In
5:39
many ways of gives them power if you
5:41
get angry. in many ways of gives them
5:43
power if you get whatever it is. It
5:45
was a wide range of reactions of emotions
5:48
if gives them power at issue. Last say
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Syrians are. I remember watching movies when I
5:52
was a child and. I would
5:54
see Lego. You know the villain in a in
5:56
a movie gets caught some and getting punched for
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something. Then they would always be
6:01
that seen that you know would be joke or
6:03
someone did stop laughing at Batman Batman punching them
6:05
in. The joke is that Assess assess assess. And
6:09
prisons getting punched and all of a sudden
6:11
the punching almost seems meaningless. Why? Why? why
6:13
bother if this person can laugh while you
6:15
doing that to them? Than
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and don't have to be afraid. It's it's
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and as you has the power. Yes then
6:22
you're doing to them about assists as them
6:24
doing to us. You know it reminds me
6:26
a Use that guy works in a tear
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to projects and we were doing witnessing theater
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of a Theater Arts against but it's good
6:33
but it's We were working with a group
6:35
of she lives who had been in solitary
6:38
confinement sources resisting the penises him. And
6:40
we were trying to be very solemn and
6:43
sanctimonious and humbling really make sure that receptors
6:45
what's the ones who had the horrors of
6:47
their captivity. Then it comes to watch to
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play and it looked at us and said
6:52
but you miss the most important thing and
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we were. Done with it.
6:56
It's. User Uma, You think we survived
6:58
in six solitary confinement by doing some?
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you know we were scratching on the
7:03
was. we were having more, We were
7:05
laughing with the torturers and we had
7:07
the last words. Half. I'm
7:10
not Singapore and of people scratching one wolves
7:12
when things are really bad. Somebody
7:15
to fry. Judges are different and
7:17
in my home. I
7:19
will say I've never been so truck stop with the
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on it sings on the was so. Maybe
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this is an ancient wisdom we
7:27
have, like, it's it's interesting that
7:29
initiative and a spaceman now went
7:31
when they said that. Did
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you? How did you process that? When somebody
7:35
says when solitary confinement we were struggling, we
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would. We went through a lot of pain
7:39
and then you reenact their experience and they
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say you didn't You didn't remember the humor
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or you didn't include the humor. How did
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you process seven? How to change? How useless
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For. As I said we missed
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it read thought we were being
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respectful. By. Been very
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serious in the Texans Tested
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the experience. And activists
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tragic accident. That means
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that you get to decide you
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reactions to the events which you
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can not control. And. That's
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what humor often does it. Yes,
8:09
you, you know, confront the uncontrollable.
8:11
Guess I think you don't treat your
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previous question. I've. Often
8:16
found that she went. You know when people
8:18
say what is you must purpose. I
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go. it's it's like saying what is waters purpose.
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Schumer is as broad as water is. You
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not cycle you can use it's to cook
8:28
or dilute you can use it's too wet
8:30
something you can use it to. I think
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that's that's what Schumer is to deliver as
8:34
your that the you can to the first
8:37
something. There were some parts there's some times
8:39
and some moments where. Schumer. Is
8:41
used as a tool. To.
8:43
You know, like and him in the case of Charlie
8:46
Chaplin for instance, I. Think what
8:48
was amazing about what Charlie Chaplin did as
8:50
he used humor. To bring Hitler
8:52
down to the size that he deserves to be.
8:54
he used humor to remind people that this person
8:56
wasn't a god and this person wasn't impenetrable. That's
8:59
what he used to. It's too because what Hitler
9:01
wanted was for. Want to look at him seriously
9:03
and go. I'm look at me. This is why
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Amps and Solid have more like know let's look
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at him as how we wish to see him.
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That. Was one one use of humor.
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Another type of humor is not as
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the Gallows humor. People laughing at
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the end and in a weird way controlling their
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own destiny and their own as feeling that. Said
9:21
the ultimately the executives Yes
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sometimes. Use humor to connect people. Use
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humans are love to get some of
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the some of the best last I've
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experienced. Have been at funerals and that
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weeks and didn't moments when everybody's is
9:34
sharing a collective grief. And
9:37
someone with punctuate? that's. You.
9:39
Know want to. One of my favorites I'm My favorite
9:41
moments was I'm. Or. My best friends
9:43
in South Africa, his uncle. Was.
9:45
Diagnosed with with cancer was states for
9:48
and he was in the the hospital
9:50
bed and his whole family at Come
9:52
In. And. Essentially, the
9:54
doctor said there's nothing they can do and the
9:56
guy had a few months to live and the
9:59
whole family is gathered. They with him. And.
10:03
His brother leaves the room. Comes
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back after fifteen minutes. With
10:08
an animated face and says guys guys I just spoke
10:10
to the doctor he says the something we can do
10:12
is of the something we can do and and everyone's
10:14
like what any trusted his brother was in the bed
10:16
I mean this man is dying and he looks at
10:18
him. And he says but doctor says
10:20
you you have to see how for you can
10:22
bend and you can use to bend your your
10:24
your rib cage can you bend your head how
10:26
far for can you bend senses I have an
10:29
i i can try to says he says if
10:31
you've been been far forward go all the way
10:33
down and tissue as could buy. And
10:36
everyone lost every one of the men in
10:38
the bed. the family, the Iraq people have
10:40
been crying the whole time. And
10:43
school. This day it is one of the biggest
10:45
loss that a shared in and amongst the families
10:47
and I was some that magical that. The
10:50
story of this man. Dying.
10:53
And he did die. unfortunately. The happy stories
10:55
that that story. When you asked them
10:57
your uncle had cancer or your father
10:59
had cancel, your brother had cancer, single
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me down Man and his ass. Exactly
11:03
exactly. I think that that's what makes
11:06
humor magical is that is it has.
11:08
it serves many purposes. So I
11:10
thought of another one because when
11:12
you look on line, Awesome! What
11:14
she sees, all the physiological benefits
11:16
of last year say that it
11:19
distresses you. It's really reduces cortisone
11:21
levels. It increases endorphins. It's as
11:23
we said, That
11:25
I said and this is resumed. Linked
11:27
to my work is when it that
11:29
you know is the closest you can
11:31
get to a person without touching them.
11:34
Home. How.
11:36
Does that sound to you? While.
11:40
Ah, As
11:43
I would say the system sit with. This. For.
11:46
Us. As
11:49
profound. I think it's
11:52
profound because. Touch.
11:56
Depending on how you hear it, Can.
11:58
Be positive or negative, So I agree
12:00
with you. Because. In many
12:02
ways, Schumer is a perform a way
12:05
that you can touch somebody else. I
12:08
mean look at to sit the
12:10
scenario around the dying men vs.
12:12
years of unity you have said
12:14
he dairy to yes you you
12:16
are consuming vanity you know did
12:18
you steal? been some in the
12:20
house on it really was a
12:22
way to getting very very close.
12:25
To each other. So.
12:29
The reason. I think you're
12:31
you're You're so right as well is
12:33
because. Humor.
12:37
Relies on sharing a reality yes, even
12:39
if it is for a moment in
12:41
time, even if it is just for
12:43
a sentence. That's. What's Uma is
12:45
one of my favorite things about humor
12:48
is. You. Can often tell a
12:50
joke. And. People will laugh before
12:52
they can think about the joke and then
12:54
sometimes. oh god no I don't find that
12:56
funny. And I
12:58
got you've lost. You lost already too
13:00
late. You wanted to go look know
13:02
I shouldn't have, I did. I don't think
13:04
that that's funny is ignore you Loftus.
13:06
Finish the scar it and I find that
13:09
that's what I you know to that point
13:11
of touching somebody without we're getting close
13:13
to them without touching them is. That's what
13:15
Schumer is is your finding a moment
13:17
where you connect with someone. In.
13:20
A said moment of truth. And
13:22
humor by the way required for that's
13:24
maybe with. that's maybe why I find
13:26
it so intimate. it it always requires.
13:29
Proof. I'm if you experience
13:31
because you you use humor and in therapy as
13:33
well. But. Like do
13:35
you find. Would you
13:38
agree? If I was to say that humor
13:40
always has truth? Connected to it
13:42
whereas maybe sex do not. You know
13:44
when someone just tells you a story.
13:47
You. Often find they can. they can fabricate the can
13:49
move This the can put it the with but humor
13:51
especially when other people join him. It means that people
13:53
have actually agreed. I mean
13:56
you can only last together at something
13:58
that you relates to. Together Yes! So
14:00
and when it through. On.
14:03
It's on top of it, more powerful
14:05
because it is subversives as yesterday when
14:07
it's something you soon be laughing at.
14:09
Yes, Yes, Yes. I so I have
14:11
actually visited like this: This is an
14:14
American recorded American multiple. Choice of
14:16
us. A know
14:19
finity exposes hypocricy. Build.
14:22
Bridges. Tells
14:24
the truth like no other, Speak
14:27
the unmentionable. Fences
14:30
Unity. Son. And
14:32
just thought: hood and
14:34
skewers prejudices, Creates.
14:36
Unity and solidarity. What does
14:38
your comedy do? I.
14:41
Think my comedy does
14:44
as many of those
14:46
things as possible. But.
14:53
When. Asked performing comedy. You.
14:56
Know before us on the Daily Show before people
14:58
really knew me. One. Of
15:00
my favorite moments. When. Stepping on
15:02
stage was the fact that
15:04
the audience have no concepts.
15:07
Oh. Perspective.
15:09
Of why was I was a stranger stepping
15:12
up in front of an audience? About.
15:15
To engage in a really intimate experience with
15:17
them and a comedy club is oftentimes one
15:19
hundred hundred and fifty people. And that's it's.
15:23
And. I remember one day because I would you know
15:25
I would always have. This was some this awkward feeling
15:27
at the beginning of a comedy show. In many ways
15:29
you know you will talk about the with therapy or
15:32
we should. We begins to the back of a where
15:34
do we begin and and I remember one this as
15:36
it's of the audience. And. And it
15:38
stuck with me for a shows I said comedy.
15:41
Is a lot like six. Know
15:43
the seduction exercise. It really is because
15:45
as as the performer, I'm playing the
15:47
role of one person where my role
15:50
is. My job in this moment is
15:52
to satisfy us, the audience. And
15:54
then. You know, the audience essentially
15:56
telling me how. Well, I'm doing or
15:59
not by how much. When they make. And
16:03
this become the zebra. Thought it really is.
16:05
and it's It becomes a real back and
16:07
forth into relationships and there are times when
16:09
the audience might get uncomfortable. and my job
16:11
I think as a good comedian is to
16:13
try and provide the context for them to
16:15
understand why they should be comfortable with me,
16:18
but also understand why they aren't comfortable and
16:20
be able to move and and and play
16:22
in that dance. And that's why. Think I
16:24
think it's exactly like six in that. Sometimes.
16:27
You think the audience has come to the
16:29
show going, We want you to do what
16:31
you do and then midway through go Bomb
16:34
Adam If I'm comfortable with that says my
16:36
my into my mind I'm not uncomfortable with
16:38
that. Let's let's go back to missionary jokes
16:40
and that's fine. That's. Fine. And
16:43
and and it's interesting because then sometimes an
16:45
audience becomes more comfortable. Him and you do
16:47
engage. and it's it's a constant. Went on.
16:49
Who sex in this scenario jokes to you
16:51
Ever lose interest? I.
16:56
Don't. I
16:59
don't because because what I what
17:01
I've learned over time is. All.
17:04
Comedy. The. Entire
17:07
relationship. Just like six. Is.
17:10
All about contexts. And
17:12
context. Is. About communicating
17:14
with somebody else we you are in
17:17
relation to them and then hopefully them
17:19
understanding with they are in relation to
17:21
you. You know it
17:23
does. The very interesting distinction in
17:25
latin in friends to about sensex
17:27
as he is He. Too.
17:29
Easy to loans, Mccain does.
17:32
He does. He. Is. To the roads.
17:35
Has. A to Humiliate makes it
17:37
ces. Two. Letters that make the
17:39
whole distance. Changes. It's. It. Seems
17:41
is it because it says that
17:43
you can't love with somebody who
17:45
is ceiling vulnerable. About the thing
17:47
is trying to poke sun which
17:49
is really different from your uncle's
17:51
story just so. Nice.
17:54
I sneeze. Do you find that it's
17:56
harder these days to make fun of
17:58
certain things? The are we
18:00
more vulnerable to do or every more.
18:03
Though it. Is so
18:05
I honestly I don't think we'll. I
18:08
might be, I might be. The.
18:11
Outlier in this feeling, but I don't
18:13
think the people have become more sensitive.
18:15
I don't think that people have become
18:18
more easily offended. I don't I honestly
18:20
don't think that's what I do think.
18:23
Is that's. The.
18:25
Way we share content or the
18:27
way we connect with people. Has
18:30
lost. The context that
18:32
is necessary for people to feel comfortable.
18:35
When. Telling or not telling a joke. You.
18:37
Know to use use the same analogy of six.
18:41
When. You have sex with somebody. It is
18:43
an intimate moment when you get to know
18:45
them, you both become one more comfortable with
18:48
each other, and as the layers of closer
18:50
being removed you're both consenting to each moment
18:52
that then leads to another and then you
18:54
wind gulf in each other and then you
18:56
go where you wish to go to together.
18:58
But now. What with the internet
19:00
and social media has done is. It.
19:03
Has teleported us to sex with people that we
19:05
weren't even having sex with. You
19:08
know, sort of course you'd be offended. You
19:10
know if is. Some. Random
19:12
person was teleported into your bedroom and then
19:14
said, let's have sex I think you'd be
19:16
offended. Because there's no
19:18
backstory, there's no journey. Who are they? How are
19:21
they? Do You know this story, Everything we do
19:23
and is a terrible, disgusting thing if you don't
19:25
have the context for the other person. I could.
19:28
Write as as I call it.
19:30
The Plots: Yes, thank you yes,
19:32
Effects of the plots And so.
19:35
And so I think comedy itself is that
19:37
You you you you have social media which
19:39
has been amazing for many things. But.
19:42
Now. I. Can have a
19:44
conversation with Esta online. We. Can
19:46
be last thing. We. Can be tweeting
19:48
at each other. We can be sending sick, toxic, what does
19:50
it might be? With somebody who
19:52
has no context for the plot or
19:55
the conversation can step in. And.
19:57
Find a sense in that because they were
19:59
not. The conversation Or the plots. You
20:02
know and I think there's a reason the no
20:04
no comedy clubs have windows that are open to
20:06
the to the to the sidewalk because with you
20:08
walking by you would you would you be offended
20:10
at every comedy club if you walked in. There
20:13
are people in comedy clubs were in wheelchairs,
20:15
people who have loved ones that to see
20:17
people who are dying, people who was that
20:19
you know you name is your name of
20:21
people in comedy clubs are just living life.
20:23
The humans and comedians are are exploring this
20:25
with them and in the comedy club in
20:27
the confines you'll find magic and connection like
20:29
you've never experienced before. but if you opened
20:31
the windows people would walk places. To produce
20:33
it, it's pretty to do this. We
20:41
have to take a Bruce Read. Stay
20:43
with us. Support
20:50
for Wizard we begin comes from a
20:52
blessing. In an age of distributed work
20:54
with teams and I be spread across
20:56
time zones, it's time to stop measuring
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22:08
them as they're crying but I also.
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Get off with them or at them. Busy day. Who
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I don't get to decide what
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they crying about wherever you do
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that to decide what you want
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them to laugh at or with.
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Yes, but you don't decide what they will
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laugh about or with And that's where comedy
22:33
is magical. Sometimes you can
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say something that you think is funny.
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No response. You.
22:41
May say something afterwards or before
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it. That's. You was nothing and
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the audience goes. That is what we
22:47
find funny. Correct. You
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me. Insects
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It's like there was what you think is going to
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pleasure the person and there is what pleasures the person
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and so you might think this is what I'm doing.
23:00
this is going to be great and then all of
23:03
a sudden legal fc nominal. I like that's and I
23:05
think if you in concert with them and you wish
23:07
for that. To. Be the a pleasure
23:09
as a comedian. I'm not saying this because I
23:11
want you to laugh at this. I wish to
23:13
come. I wish I was to bring on a
23:15
journey with me. So it is an
23:17
exercise in seduction. This isn't over completely
23:19
and sonos. So when I asked you
23:21
what is something that you would like
23:23
to learn from me and it's you
23:25
vs it says yes I do like
23:27
to learn from each other. I am
23:30
about to go on tour and I
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have some to learn from. the pros
23:34
and you said that you wanted to
23:36
learn from me how to be a
23:38
better lists. Yes, I.
23:42
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23:45
Are few tools to parts one. There
23:47
are few tools that are more important
23:49
in our society than learning how. To.
23:51
Listen, Metropolis not living up to
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23:56
We don't know how to listen. And
23:59
the reason. The to learned from you
24:01
and to understand. If. You
24:03
can give us a few
24:05
tips on how to listen
24:07
is because I think a
24:09
fantastic therapist, especially in couples
24:11
therapy has. To listen.
24:15
The. Partner says. She.
24:17
Always does this the other partner says
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24:23
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24:25
I'm hearing her say is.
24:28
And. What he might be expressing
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his. But. Neither party has
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said that's you've listened to something that
24:35
was never said. You've. Listened
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to something that may not have come out
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of their mouths. It might have been a
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body just months I I'm constantly fascinated by
24:43
that for Life for comedy for everything Because
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I say i think it's It is A
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the priceless tools that we oftentimes forget about
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in society is listening much as hearing. So.
24:55
I thought of two things he
24:57
says subversive, other is worse as
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we begin with some me I
25:02
always imagined is you listen. Carefully.
25:05
To the stories of others. The more
25:07
you listen to them and the more
25:09
you will see cells. Oh,
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and I hope that when people listen
25:13
to wish we the didn't they also
25:15
listen to how I listen. The
25:18
To One thing that you can't know
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from listening on a podcast ones doing
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when you zones. The one that you
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can't know is that you don't listen
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with. Your ears. You
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listen. With. Your voice. He.
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Listen with your eyes unison with
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you smile. You listen with the
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hands to listen as you walk
25:39
closer to the person hands in.
25:41
therapy. In person and not
25:44
just on line series. The
25:46
whole body listens and the
25:48
more and you listened like
25:50
that. The quality of you
25:52
listening is what will say.
25:55
What? The speaker will tell how
25:57
much, how open, how deep.
26:00
Meaning listening is not as
26:02
the pisses me see the
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zebra listening shapes the speaker.
26:08
Who so. That's one thing
26:10
I thought for you in in listening
26:13
and you do that because you are
26:15
constantly will as soon too hot people
26:17
are listening to you and same seeing
26:19
what you're doing in the Mormons. In
26:22
response to how they listen. And
26:25
then listening room listening is
26:28
curiosity. It's a few listens
26:30
with expectations in advance of what
26:32
you should hear. You're not listening
26:34
is you're listening with a confirmation
26:36
bias. To get evidence for that
26:38
which you've already made up your
26:40
mind. The bed you're not really
26:42
listening. Listening is a certain kind
26:44
of engagement with the unknown. It's
26:46
curiosity. It's been completely available to
26:49
what the other person is telling
26:51
you, and I think that that
26:53
also happens in your shows. That.
26:56
Happens in my So's. But I realize.
26:59
Why? An
27:01
ex of mine hated that I would look at
27:04
my phone when she was speaking. At
27:06
know and I just have a realization how much.
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Ha! I. Never thought about that. Genuinely honest
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because in my hello go there is no object.
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In my head. Are put your
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was of empathy of a therapist's esa. Like
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wow and how does that make you
27:23
feel? What are you serious are not
27:25
because it's because it might have realised.
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Now know of any why. I'll tell
27:29
you why. I'll tell you why because
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you see funny, not because of the
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way you articulate with outside you. What.
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I would always be hearing.
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What she would say. Ah, What?
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details the idea. Of
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same thing the speaker or
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the communication. By.
27:51
Your full listening is something that I
27:53
don't think I've fully. I wouldn't have
27:55
that onstage. I'm I'm a fully understand.
27:58
But. When speaking to people, sometimes I think that. That
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for granted because I think of
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sensation that you are with somebody
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useless. I'm talking about something
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super importance and yeah just
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like taking away and it
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makes me feel like. Anything.
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I'm sending you has no value,
29:08
no importance. Yeah no I I
29:10
I mean I can understand it's you
29:13
don't in comedy clubs. We would always
29:15
say that the the moment every comedian
29:17
the hates his when oh. They're.
29:19
Collecting the check. So.
29:21
You never want to be onstage during that
29:23
moments with the weights as walk through the
29:25
room and they'll start giving people they checked
29:27
and then you're trying to tell jokes and
29:29
people are trying to calculate the tip on
29:31
the bill. Is the worst
29:34
moments been a comedy club? You
29:36
can literally feel the audience disappear
29:38
from you. And essentially they're going
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know why? By the way, By I'm going. On
31:23
So yeah, for the very reason that you
31:25
talked about. Why in first and such
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as bottle. Ah,
31:33
Said I think more more more specifically
31:36
for me is I'm going like you
31:38
already do therapy with people. One on
31:40
what I'm saying why the keeps us.
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a collective actually is the
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most important way to take
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us out of the loneliness
32:06
that we often see in
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those experiences as think that
32:10
we've become plates. Socially.
32:12
Atrophied this after this time and I
32:14
think that we living more and more
32:16
the contactless world when this addresses I'm
32:18
in. This is what's happened here People
32:21
that I'd wouldn't let you know like
32:23
you. We talk for two years by
32:25
looking at a green.on the screen yes
32:27
we never heard of person last. We
32:30
had no idea how they responded
32:32
to us, we spoke, and we
32:34
had no notion of who was
32:36
listening and how we feel everything
32:38
here. And. That experience
32:40
is not just submit for me the
32:43
expensive, the expense of the people in
32:45
the rooms. You are aware of the
32:47
other people's responses to what's happening. You
32:49
identify with others who are serving the
32:51
same experience even if they don't say
32:53
a word to see, see the to
32:55
the whole thing and for that I
32:58
am going back in the world a
33:00
want to have that experience and I
33:02
want people to have that experience with
33:04
each other. Do. Have a get nervous when you
33:06
when you're. Doing. Those shows. So
33:08
this is exactly it's he know your day
33:10
and lost in the in and you talk
33:13
about the the, the, the build in the
33:15
slum families of i actually need lights when
33:17
I talk. I need to see the
33:19
people is I have had that fit in front
33:21
of me. That's really hot. I
33:23
have a lot of fear. I stage fright.
33:26
I need to see I need to see
33:28
the eyes of the people who are looking
33:30
at me because otherwise that's where my talking
33:32
to. And. I
33:34
have serious about. You know. Yet, But you
33:37
know what's interesting about about comedy is where
33:39
where comedy some comedians have that has works.
33:41
But oftentimes I find. Audiences. Are
33:43
less likely to laugh if he didn't Well,
33:45
it's because there's a civil busy I'm
33:47
There's a freedom in knowing that other
33:49
people can't see you laugh and then you
33:51
forget that other people and I think
33:53
it's It's important sometimes to not feel
33:55
like we're watched in order to give almost
33:58
honest response. Oh, that's interesting from. Your
34:00
side you need another them ignore. Nice
34:02
on enough. now I I don't amounts certain
34:04
things and that some enough for other. Oh
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wow. Like when
34:09
you to them on in. it's. Just
34:11
like off the someone said something,
34:13
very awkward. Assess assess so you
34:15
spend my time. You.
34:22
Think to the sure. What
34:25
to do, sisters? What is that? What
34:27
you do succeed says what you do
34:29
when your. Job. With it me okay for
34:31
using stage fright voicing nerves because I think the
34:33
to a different oats and me. So.
34:36
It. In In the way I
34:38
interpreted, stage fright means an inability to
34:40
perform. Because you are, You might forget
34:42
what you want to say. You might
34:44
if you're a deer in the headlights.
34:46
Best stage fright to me. nerves is
34:49
difference. Nerves. Is having a
34:51
fear? It's the Ceo of the
34:53
uncertain. It's the. it's the moments.
34:55
A you know, a base jumper.
34:57
Breathes, And and and you see them.
35:00
You. Know closing their eyes and pumping the chest
35:02
just before they jump off a high bridge.
35:04
It's the moment before that you know a
35:06
soccer player walks out of the tunnel onto
35:08
a field and you see them look up
35:10
and they say little prince That's nerves. I
35:13
think the to a very difference. That's. Why I'm
35:15
asking which one you actually have is of nerves are
35:17
the stage fright. I have both. Wow,
35:20
I can't imagine having states rights. And his
35:22
states faith. And I
35:24
see like days ago you're so close
35:27
this is and then as moment setting
35:29
a a siblings like i can't remember
35:31
things and that minutes I talked to
35:33
someone like we came on. yeah I
35:36
had said said before but the moment
35:38
even here yes what the moon is
35:40
I'm in conversation. I get grounded by
35:43
the presence of the other. It's when
35:45
I'm talking. You know yes this
35:47
is applied that is more and is that
35:49
as soon as you things that would like
35:51
to see before that and it's done. Some.
35:55
And knows I'm sign because
35:57
nurse turn into Uma. Yes,
36:00
Yes. Like for you probably. So,
36:02
and once people have laughed with me
36:04
and I feel like they're with me,
36:06
you know. It's true. The first laugh is
36:08
always the most important, I find. Yes.
36:10
But with stage fright, I... I
36:13
feel like I'm outside of myself. Like
36:15
I'm looking at myself from the outside
36:17
in sometimes and thinking, I'm
36:19
going to see blank. But
36:22
I know people don't see it, but I feel...
36:25
No, I understand that. I understand that. What
36:27
I'm trying to understand is... So
36:31
whenever I'm thinking of nerves or stage fright,
36:33
I try to understand what the
36:36
underlying feeling actually is. I can't
36:38
think in those moments. Yes. Yes,
36:41
but I'm saying, I try to get to...
36:43
You're just rationalizing. Yes, but I'm trying to get to why
36:45
can't you think? By the way, it is very rational. Sometimes
36:49
it's overstimulation. You know, there's
36:51
too many faces, too many eyes, too many things
36:53
that could be you, you're a perfectionist, which I
36:55
know you are by the way. It could be
36:57
you in that moment thinking about all the things
36:59
that you've prepared up until that point. I
37:01
often find people who have stage fright
37:03
are often the people who also over-prepare. I
37:05
am an over-prepare. Yeah. Yeah,
37:08
because when you over-prepare, you have
37:10
so many things that you've inundated
37:12
your brain with that when
37:14
the moment comes, you go, wait, do I remember
37:16
all of it? It's almost too much pressure in
37:19
a strange way. And it's why I
37:21
remember when I was in school, there's a teacher
37:23
who taught us, said, hey, the
37:25
last thing you should do is study the day of the
37:27
exam. The last thing you should do is talk about the
37:30
exam before the exam. Everything
37:32
up until that point. She used to say to her, she'd go, if you
37:34
don't know it by the day, you don't know it, trust me. She'd
37:36
be like, just move on with your life. And
37:40
I think that stuck with me. It's, you
37:42
know, so for stage fright itself, I
37:44
find that there's, and
37:47
maybe that's where small talk comes in,
37:49
which is another thing I don't think you're great at, a
37:51
small talk. Neither are you. Neither
37:53
am I? No. I'm better
37:55
than you at small talk. I'll
37:57
say this. I can, I can, I can. create
38:00
the veneer of enjoying small talk. You
38:02
do not have small talk at all. That
38:05
is true, but you pretend it's small talk
38:07
but it's anything else. No,
38:09
but I'm engaging in small talk but I'm
38:12
getting something deeper from it. There's a
38:15
difference. You are not even into small talk
38:17
land at all, at all, at all. Right,
38:19
you've listened to Where Should We? When was
38:21
the last time you said to somebody, this
38:24
weather? So
38:28
I will tell you where I do my
38:30
best small talk. I've made some of my
38:32
best friends on airplanes. I
38:35
met so many people on
38:37
the plane exchanging newspapers. I was
38:39
reading Le Monde, they were reading
38:41
the Parisian, we knew exactly our
38:43
political affiliations. And I
38:46
think when you sit up suspended in the
38:48
air, like in the
38:50
movie, you start these incredible conversations
38:52
and they can start with small
38:54
talk like, do you travel this
38:56
airline frequently? Or where are you
39:00
flying to? Or is it work or pleasure?
39:02
Or any of this? And then it's amazing
39:05
what people tell me when I wrote the
39:07
state of affairs. It's
39:09
about infidelity. Yes. Do you
39:11
know what people told me on airplanes? It's
39:14
just unbelievable. It's a living
39:16
confessional. I think there's
39:21
just like there is no small talk because people
39:23
come to me and start telling me very
39:27
important, these secretive,
39:29
deep things very quickly. No, but
39:31
I think it's... And I respect it. No,
39:33
but I think, okay, I think it's two things. So
39:36
one, I'll actually get to that part second. But the
39:38
first part is the thing about
39:40
airplanes. Number one, I think
39:42
there is something that we have learned. And that is
39:44
if you have
39:46
a little less oxygen, you're a little more
39:48
free. No,
39:50
I'm serious. And that's why people breathe into paper
39:52
bags before they go on stage or they... No, really
39:55
it is that sometimes it's just like letting your body's
39:57
stress response go down a little. Do
40:00
you do any breathing before you walk on
40:02
stage? Yeah. Yeah. So that, that,
40:04
if you, if you get the right breathing, that might help. But
40:06
the other thing about planes might be to your small talk is
40:09
you have inherently agreed
40:12
with somebody that you are going through or doing the
40:14
same thing. The fact that you are in a plane
40:16
with somebody means that you have both made the same
40:18
decision to head to the same place in life, even
40:20
if it is just for that moment in time. And
40:23
so now you can say to somebody,
40:25
huh, do you often fly this airline?
40:27
Huh? Which is one of the most important
40:29
things that people are afraid of. You don't seem like a crazy
40:31
person, you know? If you walk
40:33
down the street and you say to somebody, do you walk
40:36
down the street often? You
40:39
could look like a psychopath, but on
40:41
a plane, because we've made this decision.
40:43
We have a shared reality. Exactly. There it
40:45
is. And so I think,
40:47
I find that that is the key to good
40:49
small talk. The key to good small
40:51
talk is to acknowledge the environment that
40:53
both of you are sharing. That's why whether
40:55
it is the most widely used
40:57
small talk possible, because it is the one
41:00
thing that we all have to experience, whether
41:02
we like it or not. I
41:04
don't care what newspaper you've read. I don't care where
41:06
you're from in the world. I don't care how you
41:08
see the world. It's
41:11
raining. It's
41:14
raining. Wow, this rain. Yeah,
41:16
man, this rain. Oh,
41:19
this rain. And now we're in. And
41:21
now we're in an elevator and we don't
41:23
even do this kind of small talk anymore,
41:25
because that small talk would have been accompanied
41:27
with the second line. So where do you
41:29
get lunch when it rains? And
41:31
then where do you get lunch when it rains could have
41:34
become, oh, let me take you and show you a place
41:36
right around the corner that you don't know. And
41:38
we would have begun a whole relationship with
41:40
this one little line of small talk and
41:43
we don't have it. Why? Why
41:45
do you think that that's gone away? Because exactly what you
41:47
just said. No, I agree. I agree. The
41:51
fact that we have a means to contact
41:54
the people who we already contact all
41:56
the time means we are less
41:59
inclined to contact. new people to share experiences
42:01
and life with them. So
42:03
if you eat an amazing meal... That is extremely well
42:05
said. You know, if you enjoy
42:08
an amazing meal, the thing
42:10
you can do now is tell someone you know
42:12
immediately about it. You can text your friends and
42:14
go, oh my god guys, I just ate
42:16
at this phenomenal restaurant. And a picture of the whole thing.
42:18
There you go. Whereas before, there
42:20
was a time when you literally just had
42:22
to talk to somebody on the train, the
42:24
bus, wherever you are and just turn and
42:26
say, yeah, have you eaten at this place?
42:30
That was amazing. Because you
42:32
have... There's a wonderful feeling
42:34
in your body when you have to share something.
42:37
That's the second place where I've met people. Is
42:40
a restaurant? Yes, yes. You start
42:42
talking with the people next to you at the table. Next thing
42:44
you're in a bar to get the next thing you walk in. Oh yeah,
42:46
you see? So there. So I
42:48
have a question for you because you know me a little bit.
42:51
What advice do you have for me as
42:54
I go out on this tour? You're touring all
42:56
the time. Of the
42:58
record, you're going out in the world right now.
43:00
That's the name of your tour. Mine
43:03
is just called an evening with a stairporel. Which
43:06
I think is beautiful. I like that a lot. But
43:09
what do you do? I mean, one thing I
43:11
thought of with you, what does he do when
43:13
he bombs? Like I say a sentence, people laugh.
43:16
The next day I come, I say the same
43:18
sentence, nobody reacts. And I don't
43:20
know how one recovers from these things so fast. But
43:22
that's just one piece. Like what should
43:24
one know? I've never done ten
43:26
in a row like this. So
43:29
okay, knowing you, this is what I
43:31
would say. So
43:35
it's interesting, every time I go out and do shows or
43:37
anything that I do in the world, I try and
43:39
think about what I'm going to give and then
43:41
I try and think about what I would hope to get. And
43:45
the get always changes. The give varies but
43:47
not that much. But the get always changes.
43:50
For me on this tour, I think you
43:52
have a wonderful opportunity to delve into the
43:54
stage fright, understand it, tame it
43:56
or even use it to your advantage. I think
43:58
that's a wonderful thing. to learn to do.
44:02
I'll bring a little Trevor Noah. You
44:04
should, you should. But you
44:06
see that that's the amazing thing. The
44:09
second thing I think to remember is it's
44:12
all about expectation. So you
44:14
know when you say something as a
44:17
comedian and it doesn't land, the crowd
44:19
doesn't laugh. The
44:21
only reason you can feel bad about it
44:24
is because you expected them to laugh.
44:27
And if you do not expect them to
44:29
laugh, all of a sudden everything changes. It
44:32
completely changes. Going back to what
44:34
you said, if you are curious, you
44:37
don't have a preconceived notion. Instead
44:40
of going out and saying to an audience,
44:42
this is funny, you're saying to an audience,
44:44
do you think this is funny? All of
44:46
a sudden it changes because when they go no, you
44:49
don't take it as a personal affront anymore. Now you're
44:51
like, huh, why don't you think this is funny?
44:54
And now you go down that rabbit hole. Would it be funny if
44:56
I said it this way? Would it be funny if I said it that
44:58
way? Huh, this is really interesting
45:01
to me. And all of a sudden you find
45:03
yourself winding down a road that you never would have otherwise because
45:07
you had assumed something that was supposed to happen and
45:09
then didn't and now you're in your head going, why
45:11
didn't they laugh? Oh,
45:13
what am I doing? What's going on here? Oh,
45:15
this is terrible. I don't know what's going to...
45:17
And then it's over for you. So I think
45:19
that's something that you can let go of. Also,
45:22
when people are coming to Esther Pirell, I
45:24
think the primary reason they're
45:26
coming is because they want to grow, they want
45:28
to learn, they want to explore
45:31
conversations that they maybe aren't able to
45:33
have by themselves. They want
45:35
to be in community in these intimate spaces.
45:38
So the one thing for you that you should
45:40
also take with you is no one's expecting you
45:42
to be funny. So that's a bonus.
45:45
You get what I'm saying? Like,
45:47
if you are of the profession and you do
45:50
not deliver it, people are disappointed. So
45:53
if I'm a stripper and I do not turn
45:55
you on, I have failed. But
45:58
if I'm a bus driver... And
46:00
I start taking my clothes off and
46:02
you get turned on. That's a bonus. Mr.
46:08
Trevor, I'm going to thank you because
46:10
I want us to actually bring this
46:12
community that is here with us.
46:16
So first of all, your tour is called. Off
46:20
the record. And the reason I called it
46:22
funny enough that is because, you know, it's
46:24
funny, you and I often are in the
46:26
similar zeitgeist or we experiencing a similar zeitgeist
46:29
in time. I call it that because I
46:31
wish for more of those moments. I
46:34
wish for more moments where we are
46:36
off the record. I wish
46:38
for more moments where we exist from
46:40
here to here, nowhere else. Just
46:43
in that moment, I think that's how we
46:45
build communication. That's how we build understanding. That's
46:47
how we build context. But now, even in
46:49
politics, we live in a world where one
46:52
politician will not even
46:54
engage with another politician because they're afraid
46:56
that the outside world sees them and
46:59
then questions their validity within their political
47:01
sphere. And then that means no
47:03
talks can ever happen. And I think we need
47:05
to do more things off the record. You
47:07
know, love can be off the record. Your relationship can
47:10
be off the record. A conversation, a room like this.
47:12
Let's do it off the record sometimes. You know, where
47:14
it's like there's no phones and you have to just
47:16
remember everything. And then you have to go and recount
47:18
it to somebody else and you have to go and
47:20
try and share it with them. I want to I
47:22
genuinely want to get back to that. I want to
47:25
be in a place and a space in time where
47:27
I say this happened there. You
47:29
had to be there. And if you
47:31
weren't, you won't fully understand it. And that's fine. Privacy,
47:36
intimacy. That
47:38
is also other words for
47:40
what happens off the record. But your podcast is
47:42
called Now What? What Now? What Now?
47:44
Yes. Because
47:47
it goes well, it took us a long time to decide
47:49
that it is because they are very different. Yes. Tell
47:51
me. So what now is because
47:54
I wanted to have conversations about the
47:56
conversations that invade our lives. And I
47:58
love that thing of. I would
48:00
always say that to friends. You know, we'd be having a conversation,
48:02
someone go, did you see what's happening
48:04
with TikTok? And then I would say, oh, what now? You
48:07
know, and it's just like everything in life. I always feel that
48:09
there's a what now. And I
48:11
think the double entendre of it is, what
48:13
now? Where do we go from here?
48:16
Okay, this has happened. There
48:18
are many things in the world that are going to happen. But
48:21
what now? I don't think we
48:23
spend enough time in society asking the what
48:25
now. We've gotten really good at reacting, but
48:28
we haven't gotten good at saying, okay, it
48:30
has happened. What now?
48:33
As in a session that starts
48:36
with where should we begin. Exactly. So
48:40
listen to his podcast, go to his
48:42
tour, and let's- Listen
48:45
to her podcast, go to her tour. Oh,
48:47
oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh,
48:49
oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, If
48:56
you wanna hear more from Trevor
48:59
and myself, we asked the audience
49:01
to share some questions with us
49:03
as a second part of our
49:05
conversation. And if you're curious, just
49:08
join us on my episode on
49:11
Apple subscription later this week. This is
49:13
my favorite part of watching your shows, by the way. I
49:15
watch the videos and then I'll always, I love this part, really.
49:22
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