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means... I know. Because

3:22

you know W-A-P is a thing. We're

3:24

getting dirty right out of the gate. getting

3:26

dirty right out of the gate. We're both living

3:28

La Vida Loca over here. When

3:32

I have a literal mocha.

3:34

Living La Vida mocha. We're

3:36

living La Vida Loca because we're drinking espresso

3:39

and it's past 3 p.m. It's 3.07.

3:43

I'm gonna drink it right now. Yeah, we gotta drink it fast

3:45

because truly, I had coffee

3:48

at 3.20 the other day.

3:50

And it kept you up until right now.

3:53

You haven't slept since. Haven't slept in two weeks.

3:55

eyes are pretty wearing eye makeup oh

3:57

yeah I got a new

4:00

of cheek and an eye. While

4:02

we're near the eye, we'll

4:05

do the eye, Dale's

4:07

cheek service.

4:09

Is this a real song? Dale's cheek

4:12

service. While

4:15

we're near the eye. What

4:17

is this? Well, they're doing your cheeks, so

4:20

they're near the eye. Oh, well we're

4:22

near the eye. While we're near

4:24

the eye. We will do the eye.

4:27

I'm not saying

4:30

Dale's cheek service. Dale's

4:35

cheek service. While

4:39

we're near the eye.

4:41

So you're in your world

4:43

here. This product that I bought

4:46

is called Dale's cheek service.

4:47

Did you go to see Dale? I can't help

4:50

but notice you had both your cheeks and your eyes

4:52

done in a similar fashion. So is this a world

4:54

where you go to somebody to

4:56

have blush and eyeshadow

4:58

administered.

5:00

I pictured them buffing you.

5:02

Ah. I

5:04

mean, there probably is a service like that. There's

5:06

so much. Like living

5:09

in LA has really- Love Vida Loca, Lele.

5:12

Living, well, I'm putting

5:14

the LA in love Vida Loca.

5:18

I start crying. Like

5:21

you being funny is like. Oh

5:24

God. I forgot you had a cough.

5:28

I've been just going about

5:30

my day in total

5:33

silence. And now I'm back with

5:35

the cough.

5:35

Honestly, you know

5:37

when someone's sick and they're coughing and you're mad

5:39

at them? I know. You have that more

5:41

than anybody. You immediately were like, I

5:43

know, because me? Well, you have that

5:46

more than anybody. Oh, I thought because of me coughing.

5:48

No, I am continuing

5:50

on to that. So you're

5:53

really like hyper aware of when I'm coughing

5:55

or when Leela's coughing and it like

5:56

irks you. Yeah. Yeah. But.

5:59

workable. on the other side of that. And this

6:01

is true in a wider sense about you. Like

6:04

you're very noise sensitive, but you're incredibly

6:06

loud. You're incredibly close,

6:08

extremely loud or whatever that is.

6:10

Yeah, I'm everywhere, everything, the whale.

6:12

Incredibly, yeah sure. The whale,

6:15

Ikshirin? There had to- Ikshirin?

6:18

I didn't watch all of the Oscars. Did Jimmy Kimmel

6:20

make a joke about how the whale

6:22

is so fat that he was everywhere all

6:24

at once?

6:29

I mean, look, name drop, name droppy. Okay?

6:36

Okay. Okay. My dad.

6:39

Okay. I bought myself a table, okay? It

6:41

had everyone knew what you meant by table.

6:44

Why do you have to scare us? If

6:47

you had said that to me any day before

6:50

the Oscars, I would have texted it to

6:52

him. and we could have watched

6:54

that joke beyond the Oscars.

6:56

I mean, that's very sweet of you. Well,

6:58

yeah. Brendan Fraser's-

7:01

That is my life actually- But it's hard. Is being

7:03

late, late to the game. Well, I don't

7:05

know about that, but I

7:07

think it's trouble. So I don't know if you could say

7:10

he was so fat in the whale.

7:11

Right. I don't know. He

7:14

was so big in the whale, he was everywhere. He

7:17

was everywhere all at once. We had everything

7:19

everywhere all at once. And Brendan Fraser

7:21

in a fat suit so big, He was everywhere at

7:23

once. All at once. I

7:26

mean, regretables.

7:29

But anyway,

7:31

you are very sensitive to

7:34

coughs. And

7:36

yet this morning while Leela

7:38

and I were sleeping, you were in a chair

7:41

in the same room as us. Could have

7:43

been in any room of the house. We were still asleep

7:45

just coughing. Gene hacking

7:48

away. Gene Hackman away.

7:50

Like a real Gene Hackman. Yeah. You

7:53

know what, Valerie? I'm just saying. I'm

7:56

going to tell you something about this. This

7:59

is actually. There has to be like a French word

8:01

for this feeling when I thought I was garnering,

8:04

Jennifer garnering, your sympathy.

8:07

Like you were in bed going, oh, poor baby.

8:09

Well, I was. No, too

8:11

late to change your narrative. No, because

8:13

yesterday we. Ho Chi Minh. I don't

8:15

know who Ho Chi Minh is, a Chinese dictator

8:18

I think. I don't know, I don't know. I'm just trying to say you're

8:20

like an evil emperor.

8:21

Okay, got it. Of

8:23

the house. I don't know Ho Chi Minh. But

8:27

the insult stands. The insult plays.

8:30

I want to say yesterday

8:32

we were talking about, because we were listening

8:34

to Lila Koff, we're just, we're extremely

8:37

unwell.

8:37

And incredibly close. And incredibly

8:39

close. We were

8:42

listening to Lila Koff and we were saying, it's

8:44

like a shock to our nervous systems because

8:47

we're feel bad for her. She's

8:50

Koff and- And it registers as irritation.

8:52

And that was the same thing.

8:54

Conmigo? For you. I like

8:56

felt bad for you and I was asleep

8:58

and I didn't want Leela to wake up. So there was

9:01

something. But is it weird? Yeah, no, it's weird

9:03

and a little embarrassing that when I look back, I was

9:05

like, I am coughing a lot.

9:08

But I'm like so miserable that

9:11

I'm like, Shirley Efel can hear

9:13

me, she's just like poor baby. See,

9:15

this is, I think. Not what an

9:17

ass. This is the difference between a nine

9:20

and a four on the Enneagram, sorry to bring

9:22

in the Enneagram, but geez, it really applies

9:25

to so many things. Did you know

9:26

James Finley told me that the Enneagram was

9:28

basically channeled. Really?

9:31

I didn't know this. I didn't know that either. That the

9:33

image of the circles that explains the Enneagram

9:36

came to, this is the,

9:38

I don't know. Wow. The legend,

9:41

but it was channeled and the

9:43

number nine and the symbols

9:46

and the types and it all just sort of. Wow.

9:49

Came into someone like a lightning rod.

9:51

I've experienced. From beyond.

9:54

It's the truest thing I've ever

9:56

experienced. It just seems so far. Do you

9:58

have any agreement? Yeah! Like so

10:01

far I haven't really been able to find, and

10:03

maybe it's confirmation bias, but I

10:05

feel like I have a pretty, one of my strengths

10:07

is having like a deep knowledge

10:09

of people and like understanding

10:12

of people. And this is like pretty

10:15

bulletproof.

10:16

Yeah, it's really good. It's bulletproof

10:18

coffee. And so

10:20

a four, which we think you are, we thought you

10:22

were three, we kind of think you're four now. Well,

10:25

can we interject?

10:26

More on that, yeah. Well,

10:28

Richard Rohr came through Ojai, our

10:31

beloved Richard. Yeah. Our beloved

10:33

Richard. Our beloved Richard. And he stayed

10:35

with us. Father Richard came through and was here and

10:37

we celebrated his birthday. And

10:40

one morning, much to my delight,

10:43

and we've done this before. I've done this with Richard several

10:46

times where we're trying to Enneagram me.

10:48

And he's like, he just really doesn't think I'm a three,

10:51

which is really funny. You've, you've a three

10:53

on the Enneagram is the achiever. And

10:56

Don Draper is a good example of a three, Michael

10:58

Jordan,

10:58

I think is a three, John F. Kennedy. And

11:01

that's what Richard always says, which is sort

11:03

of a burn, is that I don't have

11:06

the clean lines and

11:08

look of a three.

11:09

Yeah, you're not slick enough is what he

11:11

said. That's what it is. And you don't care enough

11:13

about how you look. Like they're usually

11:15

very sharply dressed.

11:17

Yes. They're very- Frequently

11:19

manicured. Yeah, their hair is neat.

11:22

I, to go with

11:24

this, did a podcast today with Rory Scoville,

11:26

which was incredible, it'll be out this week. And

11:30

I got out of bed and got in the car.

11:32

Yep. And that's not to sound like

11:34

a cool jewel, but I like- No

11:36

one thinks that's cool. Bum,

11:40

bum, bum, bum, bum, bum, bum, bum,

11:42

bum, bum, bum, bum. Is

11:45

there Kyan in this mocha?

11:47

Cause I'm extra spicy today.

11:49

I loved it. I played

11:51

the bass line from Brookhouse to

11:54

enjoy it, but I did. Well, I took it as a compliment.

11:56

You should, you are a Brookhouse. That's not a whole.

12:01

72. What a winning hair. Yeah,

12:03

you're a real pyramid shape. Oh, Jesus.

12:06

But a nine. 72 is like Brendan

12:08

Fraser everywhere all at once. Oh my gosh.

12:11

You know, look, I'm going to say something. Free

12:14

Willy, the whale, fat

12:17

Albert. It's fun to have a big,

12:20

big, easy to go to low

12:22

hanging fruit

12:24

of a big guy. That's

12:26

true. Do you really like, I care so

12:29

much about all bodies are beautiful

12:31

and not body shaming that I'm being a little

12:33

loose with my lips here. I should be

12:35

more

12:35

careful. Loose lips. I love. Eat

12:38

that pizza, double slice. You

12:40

haven't seen the whale. No, I haven't. So

12:42

you can't say that. Oh, okay. Once

12:44

you see the whale, you can make as many big body

12:46

jokes as you want. That's how it works.

12:49

If that were true, the lines would be around the block.

12:51

Oh my God. JK. He

12:53

does at one point in the will, not

12:55

a spoiler, he stacks

12:58

two slices of pizza atop one another. Okay,

13:01

so anyway, which, oh, I actually didn't

13:03

mean that as a sad thing, I was like, respect,

13:06

like that looks amazing. Yeah, it

13:08

does. Maybe that says something about me. Anyway,

13:11

we think I'm a four, which

13:13

is the individualist, which

13:16

I've now, so we had coffee

13:19

and we were talking about it and

13:21

I definitely think I'm a four,

13:23

which Mirabai Star also thinks I'm

13:25

a four. Who cares? And she's a four.

13:27

And they're the kooky jookies. And I tend to not

13:29

like other fours because they're attention seeking

13:32

hers. Yeah. Four, more like whore.

13:34

Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah. And

13:37

they're going around doing their weird kinetic dances and their strange

13:39

tattoos and their rosy red glasses

13:42

and their hair is up with spikes and shit.

13:44

And I'm just like, get the fuck over yourself.

13:46

Meanwhile, I'm on the corner with a steel drum going

13:48

like, everywhere's Jamaica,

13:50

if you make a Jamaica. And

13:53

it's like, if you make a Jamaica,

13:55

I'm like, I don't care, just look at me. Yes.

13:58

but I don't, I tend to.

15:59

and go do your own thing. Valerie,

16:03

this is so great. We've really walked

16:05

into a fertile tomato garden and

16:07

they're all red with a hint

16:10

of green at the top. Just perfect.

16:11

You like an unripe tomato.

16:14

I do. I'm remembering this now. Just a

16:16

little. It's because you're a four, I'm just kidding. That's

16:18

nothing to do with that. I just want, this

16:20

is what I want to say. There's

16:22

a difference between knowing your personality

16:25

and being able to splay it out on a

16:27

table. look at my wares and

16:30

defending it. Meaning

16:32

I don't even defend my personality.

16:35

That was sort of the whole vibe

16:39

of our conversation about where I am, what

16:41

my personality is. And so I'm like, yeah, and

16:44

this isn't me. I can't even be like, and

16:47

that's good or bad or

16:49

anything. I'm just like, it's just what's happening.

16:52

I'm sort of

16:53

maybe not over it, but I'm not here to be

16:55

like, The blender was

16:57

a right choice. It's just what's happening.

17:00

Right, absolutely. You're kind of watching

17:02

it as well as everybody else. Yeah,

17:04

and as confused as anyone. And I wanna

17:06

say that's the spirit that I'm saying it in

17:08

too, which it seems like you understand because

17:11

I absolutely love you. I

17:13

love every part of you. So I'm not saying this is like,

17:16

and then you just, yeah, like I have no feelings

17:18

about it because to me it's like

17:21

surface details about you. It's not

17:23

like who you actually are

17:25

and who I know you to be. I agree because often

17:28

this quote unquote personality, personality

17:32

only comes out when you put it in situations

17:34

with people. So what was so great about having

17:36

Richard and two other friends here

17:40

was, it was delightful because I felt

17:42

safe

17:43

to be both who I really

17:46

think I am, which has less

17:48

to do with these reactive programs

17:51

that I run that other people who don't know me very well

17:53

might consider my personality. and we

17:55

could just kind of like

17:57

let it rest. I didn't feel the need

17:59

to. Yeah. It's like summer

18:01

camp. I know I say this a lot, but like it's summer

18:03

camp. I just never felt as much of a need

18:06

to maintain a personality

18:09

story that I had like started stringing

18:12

since junior high. Like who I am,

18:14

what I'm about. Then I get to

18:16

camp and it's like, maybe I love friendship

18:19

bracelets. You know what I mean? Like if you could rewrite

18:21

yourself.

18:21

And I gotta say, Richard is really,

18:24

Father Richard is so converted in

18:26

my view, at

18:30

least from what I've experienced of him, in

18:34

how he reflects people.

18:37

And this is extremely converted because

18:39

he is

18:40

a one on the Enneagram, which can,

18:43

that

18:43

number can be the most judgmental. Yeah,

18:47

where they're like, there is a right way and there is

18:49

a wrong way and you're doing it wrong and let me tell

18:52

you how to do it right. And he has none of

18:54

that. And in fact, it's the opposite. Where him

18:56

saying like, there's the narcissism is

18:59

so gentle and playful and like,

19:01

in a way, in a way that's like, and there's no problem

19:04

with that. And then somebody asked

19:06

me as a nine, we have a hard time

19:08

getting in touch with our anger. And

19:11

he said, have you, one of our friends

19:13

said,

19:14

do you feel like you get angry

19:16

at people? Or do you feel like you get in touch

19:18

with your anger? And I was like, I haven't

19:21

yet really been able to be angry

19:23

at somebody while they're in the room.

19:27

And then you, and I said,

19:29

maybe Pete, it seems like

19:32

I should be, and you're like, no, I would know,

19:34

you have never been angry with me. And

19:36

instead of Richard being like, that's kind of fucked

19:38

up, Val, he was like, can you imagine

19:42

being able to say that? He

19:44

just instantly was like, we

19:46

can love this. We can love this part

19:48

of you. It was so

19:49

sweet. One of the questions I had for

19:51

Richard was about, I

19:54

wanted to ask him about A Course in Miracles, which I was

19:56

surprised, he said he had read it. I

19:58

was like, come again?

21:59

I wanted was like, buddy,

22:02

a book's just a coaster with pages, you know, like

22:04

that, okay, that's okay. Thanks, Ted. That's

22:07

fine and very well written and well done.

22:09

There you go. I mean, obviously- You just made a face. Don't shit

22:11

on her. Cause so many of our friends work

22:13

on it. And it also is clearly

22:16

very good. It's a huge hit. I'm

22:19

not pooping on it. Yeah. I'm just saying

22:22

the way we watch things has a lot to do with what's going

22:24

on in the world. That's right. The end. Yeah. So

22:27

anyway, I was wondering, so Ted

22:29

Lasso and how Ted is nice,

22:31

what is the motivation of Richard being kind?

22:34

And one of the principles in A Course in Miracles, I

22:36

actually wrote this on the mirror this morning. It

22:39

was like when a brother is acting insanely, brother

22:41

just means another person. When another person

22:43

is acting insanely, it's an opportunity

22:45

for you to bless them when it says

22:47

their need is your need. Meaning

22:50

it's not, so a big, I've

22:53

talked about this before, but a big thing in A Course in Miracles and

22:56

other spiritualities, it turns out, is that giving

22:58

is receiving. And in fact, the only way to have something is

23:00

to give it away. Like in the world of duality,

23:03

I give it to you and I don't have it anymore. They're

23:05

like, that is not how it works in the true

23:07

capital R reality. In fact, the only

23:09

way to have something is to give it away. So when

23:12

my mom is being difficult and

23:14

I bless her, I give her patience, I

23:16

give her understanding, I give her kindness,

23:18

I'm actually just giving it to myself. And

23:20

that's their whole thing. It's like, you have to forgive

23:23

everybody. That's the only way you'll forgive yourself. Of

23:26

course, it doesn't say this, but it would be like, stop waiting

23:28

for Jesus.

23:30

I might have to sign for this package.

23:33

I don't think so. It looks like he's just gonna drop that. Maybe,

23:36

but it gave me like, I got an email saying

23:38

that they were coming. And there he goes. He's dropped

23:40

it. Yeah, and he's walking away. Okay,

23:43

I'm sorry, you'll get to practice forgiving.

23:46

Very good. Not

23:48

bad. Okay, I know, I just, sorry.

23:50

I was curious, it's actually a nice interruption because I can

23:52

just cut to the quick as they say. I wanted

23:55

to know if that was why Richard is

23:57

so nice. Yeah. around.

24:00

blessing everyone. And I think he

24:02

said something like, yeah, that's part of

24:04

it. It's like giving love is how

24:06

you receive love. He's just really

24:09

simple in the best

24:12

way. Well, I think he has come

24:14

into simplicity. I don't think

24:16

he was that way for, I

24:19

think he's worked, I think that's the culmination

24:22

of-

24:22

All that stuff. Yeah, and of like

24:24

the spiritual growth is

24:27

the, I've stopped needing to know. And

24:30

the times when I do all

24:32

of these things, like identify as pure awareness

24:35

or feel really dipped in or feel really connected,

24:38

I always have a realization

24:40

of like, right, it's

24:43

incredibly simple. And

24:46

oftentimes by

24:49

trying to reach that

24:51

point, I

24:53

get further from it because I'm collecting

24:55

all this knowledge and like, how did they

24:58

look at it? How does the Buddhists look at it? And

25:00

then it's just like- It's

25:01

like more ways to describe a very simple meal.

25:04

There's like all this literature about

25:06

this one meal. But it's hard

25:08

for us to understand that the meal

25:11

could be so good and could

25:13

be for us. That it's like okay to

25:15

eat the meal. What I'm saying

25:17

is, if I were to summarize,

25:20

certainly of course in miracles, it would be the

25:22

separation from God never happened. meaning

25:25

you've only and always

25:27

have been one with love and you

25:29

are still. And you just stop

25:31

it.

25:32

You're good. Stop it. Stop

25:35

it. But the way to explain that maybe

25:37

even more poetically or beautifully

25:39

is you're a beloved

25:42

child of God or you are love or whatever.

25:47

And what's happened, what I was

25:50

gonna say, and then we can go to the

25:52

midrills here,

25:53

Is there's that Buddhist story? Maybe I

25:56

told it on this, on, we made it weird

25:58

recently. I don't know what you tell me. but

26:00

it's like when you need to cross

26:02

a river. I think you did, but say

26:04

it again. You

26:08

take a boat. So the boat might be, of

26:10

course, in miracles, it might be mystical Christianity,

26:12

it might be whatever. Maybe you said this on

26:14

like the May episode or something. I don't know if it

26:17

was, we made it weird. Keep going. And

26:19

once you cross the river, you

26:21

don't put the boat on your back and walk it up

26:23

the mountain. You just walk up the mountain

26:26

or you walk up the hill. Yeah. And

26:28

I really got the sense

26:30

hanging out with Richard that there is

26:32

hope that all of this stuff, all

26:37

this study, all of this practice

26:40

is smoothing

26:42

the stone to a point, I

26:45

guess it's all a way to say, my goal

26:47

is when I'm his age

26:49

or at some point to be

26:51

simple, to take all

26:54

of the description of the food and just

26:56

eat the food and go, I'm okay.

26:58

I'm okay.

27:01

And maybe that's available to us

27:04

at any moment. Maybe that doesn't have

27:06

to be a future goal because I do

27:09

think

27:10

we're very addicted

27:12

to thinking. So our

27:14

brain's way of staying

27:18

in control

27:20

is often taking spiritual,

27:22

okay, you're interested in spirituality and

27:25

transcending me. Okay, well,

27:27

I own that too. And here's all

27:29

the ways to think about that. Think, think, think

27:32

hard about this, about awareness.

27:34

Think about awareness and talk about it and share

27:37

about it. And then it's just like, oh right,

27:39

we're just staying in our brains. Because

27:41

our brains have now monopolized

27:44

spirituality, you know, as

27:46

a way of, it's like kidnapped it. So-

27:49

As long as we keep

27:52

us reading about the meal or

27:54

talking about the meal, we won't eat

27:56

the meal. And the problem to your individuality,

27:58

And this is speaking in course.

29:55

Okay,

30:00

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30:02

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I'm like, what's happened

38:02

is she's just constantly getting sick and

38:05

I can't. So I'm sick, everybody hears me

38:07

coughing. It's not COVID, but it's

38:10

brutal. It's like, it wakes me up.

38:12

It wakes you up as I'm sitting in the

38:14

chair in the morning. It could have been in any room. Hold

38:17

on to that one for a while. I'm just getting. Sorry.

38:20

But like, so I've been sick for

38:22

what feels like two years

38:24

and I have to fight. I

38:27

told Errin, I called Errin on the drive,

38:30

and I was like, what used to take me a day

38:32

now takes me two weeks. Yeah. And

38:34

I know everybody hears me say things like this, but

38:36

it's like, something will come across like

38:39

something right this, and I just wish

38:41

I could do it. And all I

38:43

feel like I'm doing is going to the park.

38:46

Yeah. You know. Which

38:48

is great. I know we'll miss it as I'm, because I'm

38:50

sitting here resourced, I feel good. I know.

38:53

I had my needs met. Because she went to school today. It's

38:55

central. She went to school today. podcast with Rory. And

38:57

this also happens because Father Richard was just

39:00

visiting and if I take a couple days

39:02

where I'm just not doing any work, I always,

39:04

always, always on the first day back get very

39:07

overwhelmed and incredibly

39:09

freaked out

39:10

about like, what

39:13

are we gonna do for work, for

39:15

money, for everything and I stress

39:18

out.

39:18

Yeah and I think,

39:22

I wonder, I'm gonna say something kind of that

39:24

I feel like will make, is just like unpopular

39:27

and privileged and a little bit icky. But

39:29

I wonder if the fact that we

39:32

had the privilege

39:34

of having many

39:36

years where we

39:39

didn't really have to worry about money and we had

39:42

no, like,

39:44

you were doing jobs that you

39:47

loved, that were hard,

39:49

but like in a really fulfilling way. and

39:51

we had no kid. So

39:54

we just really got used to being able

39:56

to do whatever we wanted whenever we wanted.

39:58

We got a little Beyonce'd.

41:59

It's not a distraction, it's

42:02

your baby. And

42:05

if Leela comes in, look, I'm

42:07

not gonna not. I've

42:11

been on Zoom pitches and

42:13

accepted a Leela. And always

42:16

put her on my lap and hug her and kiss her. That's

42:18

just what we're doing. But it turns out when you're

42:21

giving like that, you're

42:23

not gonna give yourself much,

42:26

not much left. Not much left. There's

42:29

not much left. Okay, let's get off this. Nobody cares.

42:31

We're parents who cares. Who cares? Being parents

42:33

hard. So what? I just want to

42:35

say as a result of my

42:38

meandering dead end story

42:41

last week, so many people have

42:43

sent me really beautiful singers,

42:46

like videos of incredible singing.

42:47

Being like, is it this? Is it this? No, just

42:49

because I think I mentioned that that's my very

42:52

favorite thing in the world. And so people have

42:54

sent me that. So I just wanted to say thank you. I've

42:56

received those, even if I haven't responded

42:58

yet and I really love it. I was

43:00

like, that's the best thing I've ever done for myself

43:03

is give a shout out that I love videos

43:06

of incredibly good singing. That

43:08

being said, this is the one my brother, my brother listened

43:10

to the episode because he was the one that showed

43:12

me this video.

43:14

And I like

43:16

can't, he's the same as me and not,

43:19

so there's a thing that they've discovered, I

43:22

don't know very much about this, but

43:24

there's like

43:25

something that they've discovered with hearing

43:27

and neurology where certain

43:29

frequencies really

43:32

vibe and resonate

43:34

with certain people and other frequencies

43:36

really vibe and resonate with other people. So this

43:39

might not be, this might just sound

43:41

like good singing to some people, but for

43:44

those of you like me and

43:46

my brother,

43:47

tuned into this frequency. This is

43:49

like the most beautiful

43:51

sound in the whole world to me. This woman? This

43:54

woman, and her name's Callie Day. So

43:56

you can look up Hear My Prayer cover

43:58

by Cali Day. This is

46:00

You better stop. That's

46:05

the part you were thinking about. Ahhh...

46:10

The range! Ahhhhhh...

46:14

Ahhhhhh... Ahhhhhh...

46:18

Ahhhhhh... Ahhhhhh... Ahhhhhh...

46:24

Ahhhhhh... Ahhhhhh...

46:28

Ahhhhhh... Ahhhhhh...

46:32

That's crazy. This whole time Val

46:34

looks like she's about to cry. I

46:36

can't even take it. Oh.

46:38

Oh. Oh. Oh.

46:41

Oh. Oh. Oh. Oh.

46:47

Oh. Whoo.

46:53

Yeah, I was just gonna say, she doesn't stop there. I

46:55

know. I remember really noting that I was

46:57

like, oh, she's gonna end low. And then she goes, imagine

47:00

if you could.

47:01

I can't, I think

47:03

that might feel like the most incredible,

47:05

If it feels this good to hear

47:08

that, I cannot even imagine

47:11

what it feels like to be able to sing like that.

47:14

And like,

47:15

I really

47:17

feel it in my entire body. It's

47:20

like my whole body like buzzes.

47:23

And the first time I remember feeling this way, my

47:25

brother and I, I

47:26

said this to my brother when he sent this to me and he

47:29

agrees. This was his exact experience

47:31

too. I remember feeling this

47:33

exact way the first time

47:37

when I watched Sister Act Two, when

47:39

I was six.

47:40

I would have known that without you telling me. Yeah, and

47:42

Lauren Hill sings, his eye

47:45

is on the sparrow. And I

47:47

just remember as six being

47:49

like, something's

47:51

happening in my body. And

47:54

then I feel that way with Beyonce, like I felt

47:56

it sense, but it's so

47:58

special because they're really.