One of the most common problems among people I work with and coach is the feeling of always being busy.And then it becomes a rationalization: I can’t honor my commitments because I’m too busy! I can’t be with my family or friends because I’m to

The Moment You’ve Been Waiting For

Jul 28th, 2019 3m 59s

Our lives are spent building up to more important moments, later, the moments when we’ll be happy. But when those moments come, we’re not happier. In fact, we’re already looking ahead.

The Magic of Seeing Everything as Sacred

Jul 1st, 2018 3m 42s

For the most part, everything is normal. We’re managing. On good days, things go pretty well. On bad days, frustration and stress get to us. But what if we could shift everything in a magical way?

Mental Resiliency: Letting Go of the Guilt of Not Getting Things Done

May 6th, 2018 4m 49s

It happens to all of us: we don’t get done what we hoped to get done, then we feel stressed or guilty about it. It’s time to let that go, because it’s not helping us. We can build resiliency around this, with a little mental training. And it wi

Why I’m Always in a Hurry, & What I’m Doing About It

Jan 14th, 2018 4m 49s

When I write these articles, they’re as much a reminder to myself about what I’ve found to work as they are a reminder to all of you. I’ve found them to work, but that doesn’t mean I always remember to practice them. It doesn’t mean I’m perfect

A Guide to Dealing with Dissatisfaction with Ourselves

Oct 29th, 2017 5m 32s

I used to think, as many people do, that if we’re unhappy with ourselves, we’ll be driven to get better. And if we were all of a sudden content with ourselves, we’d stop doing anything. I no longer believe this.

A Mindful Shift of Focus

Sep 3rd, 2017 7m 19s

The next time you experience frustration, just notice it. Just be mindful that you’re unhappy with something or someone, that you’re feeling frustration in your body somehow. Now notice what it is in this moment that you wish were different. Wh

Let Everything Breathe

Apr 2nd, 2017 1m 21s

As you sit here reading these words, you are breathing … stop for a moment and notice this breath. You could control the breath, and make it behave as you like … or you can simply let yourself breathe. There is peace in just letting your body b

What’s the Most Loving Thing You Can Do?

Mar 26th, 2017 2m 58s

The question I’ve been asking myself lately, before I do anything, is a deceptively simple one: “What’s the most loving thing you can do in this situation?“

Removing Ourselves From the Center of Everything

Jan 29th, 2017 3m 4s

When I remember to do this — and I very, very often don’t — it lifts the difficulty that I’ve been facing internally and shift my focus to understanding and empathizing with other people, seeing how I can give them compassion.

Your Internet Habits Create Your Reality

Aug 7th, 2016 1m 46s

If you’re on Facebook looking at your friends’ food pictures or vacation photos, that will shape your reality. If you’re on porn sites, that’s what your reality is. If you follow people on Twitter who complain all the time, that affects your li

How to Want Very Little

Jul 31st, 2016 4m 5s

There’s a part of today’s consumerist world that drives us to want more, buy more, act on our impulses, hoard, spend to solve our problems, create comfort through shopping, seek thrills through travel, do more, be more. What would happen if we

My Most Important Productivity Method

Jul 24th, 2016 3m 39s

You can read entire books on productivity, dozens of blog posts, and implement half a dozen different productivity systems. But at the end of the day, you’d have gotten nothing important done. The truth is, productivity is fairly simple, in the

Why We Struggle with Change

Jul 17th, 2016 4m 46s

We think we need to improve ourselves and our current situation, because we’re dissatisfied (at least a little bit) with how things are. So we strive for change — exercise more, eat better, read more, be more mindful, do more meaningful work, b

The Miracle of Suspending Mis-Belief

Jul 10th, 2016 3m 33s

When we feel difficult emotions in real life, we can stop believing in the story, and start to see the reality of what’s happening: there’s just physical objects around us, moving. There are atoms and molecules, living organisms, people who can

This Moment is Enough

Jul 3rd, 2016 3m 11s

We feel the moment isn’t enough unless we talk about it, share it, somehow solidify it. The moment is ephemeral, and we want solidity and permanence. This kind of groundlessness can scare us.

A Mini-Guide to Not Being Frustrated All the Time

Jun 12th, 2016 5m 2s

Pretty much all of us experience frustration on a daily (or even hourly) basis. We get frustrated by other people, by ourselves, by technology, by work situations, by small crises that come up all the time. How can we calm ourselves and let go

Opt Out: A Simplicity Manifesto

Apr 10th, 2016 6m 54s

Think about how busy our lives have become. Think about how distracted we’ve become. Think about how many things needlessly pull on our attention, our time, our money, our sanity. The point isn’t to opt out of life. It’s to see that life is muc

Our Everloving Quest to Control Our Lives

Mar 13th, 2016 7m 19s

The basic nature of life is that it is everchanging, uncontrollable. When we think we have stability in life, something comes up to remind us that no, we don’t. There is no stability, no matter how much we’d like it. And this kinda freaks us ou

Constantly Worried About How Others Perceive Us

Feb 7th, 2016 1m 58s

Everyone is trying to look good in the eyes of others. Everyone stresses out about how they look, how they’re perceived, whether people think they’re awesome or good people. It’s why Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, blogs and mirrors exist.

Practicing Non-Judgment

Jan 31st, 2016 2m 13s

What I’ve noticed, when I experience anger, frustration, disappointment … is that I am judging my experiences based on whether they are good for me or not. But why am I at the center of the universe?

How to Deal with Your Family’s Bad Habits

Dec 6th, 2015 5m 45s

Have you created healthy habits for you, but haven’t gotten your kids or spouse on board? You’re not alone — lots of people get frustrated when their loved ones don’t want to create healthy habits.

The Time When We’ll Be Present & Content

Nov 22nd, 2015 1m 6s

We are frustrated with ourselves, with others, with our situation, with the way the world is, and we can’t let go of wishing they were different.

The Most Important Moment

Nov 15th, 2015 3m 8s

Something I forget a lot, and have to remind myself about a lot: I’m not on my way somewhere. Each moment rushes by, because we’re on our way somewhere else.

The Place Where You Are

Jun 21st, 2015 1m 47s

Pause for a moment, right now, to notice where you are. What is it like? What is the light like? What about the sounds, the smells, the feelings your body is feeling, the people around you? What is your state of mind?