Two fears rule most of our lives. There is fear for our daily existence and the existence for our loved ones (health, money, food, shelter etc). And there is fear of making a right choice (questioning our decisions and how do affect our lives and even our afterlife)

Losing something and someone also makes us feel afraid, and out of that we tend to control. That is why we want to control our lives, and even other people when we get the fear of losing ourselves in a relationship.

Contrary to the fear of losing is the feeling of safety.

What makes us feel safe in a relationship? When we feel supported, seeing each other for who we are and the efforts we make for each other.

How can we come in that state of feeling safe if in a fight? Joking, giving each other some time to chill down, and the most important feeling of being together even if we are not together right in that moment.

There is also a good side of fear, and that is that fear helps us evolves, it puts us in conflicts upon which we built even stronger relationships.