Love and control can coexist if control is put in the right place. But when both partners want to take control over each other, the relationship, family gets out of control.

Calming our nature, taking a minute to chill, then touching first even before we talk, we establish back the control.

When calm, we analyze our relationship from aside, talk about it as a third entity.

When thinking more about the partner, rather about yourself, it brings a more sense of control. That work has to be MUTUAL.

According to Martin Buber if we are overfocused on ourselves then it happens that somebody controls the relationship and somebody else wants to be controlled (human being - thing relationship). But, if both partners feel themselves inside and want to feel each other, then they don't control each other, rather a third entity emerges between them - a relationship itself.

IN THE BETWEEN relationship happens.