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we've got a lot of hacks this

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week. We ask for your hacks and

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we share listeners hacks for summer. Plus

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we'll talk to the legendary Kelly Ripa

1:22

about her new book Live Wire long

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winded short Stories. I'm

1:38

Gretchen Rubin, a writer who studies happiness,

1:40

good habits, the five senses, human nature.

1:42

I'm in my little home office and

1:45

New York City and joining me today

1:47

from Los Angeles is my sister lives

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of crap Lizard You and I love

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a hack. That's me. Elizabeth Craft a

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Tv writer and producer living in L

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A Yes branch. We love all kinds

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of hacks, travel hacks, Or had

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style had any contact And I

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love Kelly Ripa who happens to

2:04

be best friends branch with Andy

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Cohen and Anderson Cooper two of

2:08

my favorite so will be so

2:10

fun to talk to her so

2:12

before we jump in bursts. Speaking

2:14

of hacks, we are gathering a

2:16

set of hawks that will these

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little to us personally. We're not

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going to reveal anything more at

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this time, but let's just say

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we would like any hacks related

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to travel. Hiking. And.

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Exercise generally so's sending your hacks. We're

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gathering them up and remember to send

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us questions for our ask us anything

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episode. Were getting so many fun questions

2:39

that can be a great of the

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said. And then finally I am hitting

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the road for the paperback release of

2:46

my book Life and Five Senses. June

2:48

Six Twenty Twenty Four I will be

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in Atlanta, Georgia with Terrorists books and

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more at First Baptist Church of Decatur.

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and then June seventh I will be

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heading to Dallas, Texas for in terrible.

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Bucks Please join me. It's gonna

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be so fine that you can

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get all the details. Had happier

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cast.com/book Events Funk Net Okay now

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this week or tried this of

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home is to try the Summer

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House. We have a smorgasbord of

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summer hack sent in by listeners.

3:16

So funny. Yes Karen says when

3:18

you're on a trip, signed a

3:20

book shop and buy a but

3:22

not necessarily what about that place

3:24

although it could be the one

3:26

he wants read then when you're

3:28

reading it after. Your trip and every

3:30

time you see it on your bookshelf

3:33

after that it will remind you of

3:35

your trip. It's amazing how often you

3:37

could find bookshops all over the world

3:39

with sections of books in English I

3:41

just bought Killers of the Flower Moon

3:43

and Bari Italy for examples. Also, fighting

3:46

the bookshop itself can be a fun

3:48

little expedition and often you see streets

3:50

in a city you might not have

3:52

walked down otherwise. This reminds him by

3:54

Secret of Adulthood that a quest is

3:56

more fun than a jaunt. So going.

3:59

To look for bookstore. There's like a fun

4:01

thing to do in a new city states

4:03

he says. I'm in the middle of a

4:05

trip right now. We are doing a road

4:07

trip with a family wedding in the middle

4:09

and hiking along the way which has meant

4:11

a weird combo of close we gotta use

4:13

cooler, some plastic plates and some actually really

4:15

nice kitchen knives with cease at a thrift

4:18

store in our starting city, Phoenix and have

4:20

been picnicking along the way to save money.

4:22

It's also been hard for vegetarians to find

4:24

decent meals in the smaller, selfless towns and

4:26

tourist sites. Also, I brought a plain water

4:28

bottle and have been adding souvenirs. Stickers to

4:30

it along the way or a lot of

4:32

sticker and this is a great way to

4:34

you're creating a keepsake an getting to do

4:36

something. So stickers. I love that. Yes, To

4:39

neither says a notebook or travel journal.

4:41

It's great to jot down notes or

4:43

memories to enjoy later. I recently found

4:45

one from a trip I took years

4:47

ago. There were little details I've forgotten,

4:50

but as I read my notes, I

4:52

could see it in my mind and

4:54

enjoy the memories all over again. Yeah,

4:56

and I should mention that we've heard

4:58

from listeners that they use my five

5:00

senses journal or the one sentence journal

5:02

in this way. So if you're interested

5:04

in that, suck up. As journals on

5:06

my site, Jenny Ball says path One

5:08

mess. Laundry bag for the entire family to

5:11

share. It takes up almost no room, but

5:13

is invaluable as close get dirty, throw them

5:15

in. Whether you're doing laundry on the trip

5:17

or after you get home, this always saves

5:19

a lot of time. Very. Good idea.

5:21

Yes. and I like keeping the dirty

5:23

clothes separate. Just plain clothes that makes

5:26

them feel like they're still clean. Yes,

5:28

Good point. Marie Claire says less is

5:30

enough. My latest Montserrat Again, easier said

5:32

than done. Yes! So through yes, Pauline

5:35

Hanson suggesting that we've discussed before, but

5:37

because it's kind of a life and

5:39

five senses hack, I can't resist including

5:41

it by a new perfume or body

5:44

spray and use it on your trip.

5:46

Know whenever you use it when you

5:48

get home, it will evoke memories from

5:50

your travels. Lovely Karen says I

5:53

make sure all my clothes mix

5:55

and match yes I have taken

5:57

so that philosophy when packing and.

6:00

Very helpful. Yeah still. He says always

6:02

pack your own pillow case. It will

6:04

feel like home when you sleep and

6:06

that makes it easier to sleep. This

6:08

a sort of next level. As as

6:10

I've never thought, disease Abbott's a good

6:12

idea It it is especially for people

6:14

who have trouble sleeping away from home.

6:17

And silly as another one I tried

6:19

everything unpacking before I leave to make

6:21

sure it is still comfortable and matches.

6:23

I also know what I'm worried state

6:25

and sir I have something for every

6:27

activity. It prevents me from over packing.

6:29

This is. Really good because I have a

6:31

tendency to pack close that I haven't worn

6:33

in a while thinking like are the ones

6:35

who are pockets line or make sure to

6:38

wear it but there's a reason I have

6:40

a warrant yes and then it might not

6:42

work very well said. This is a good

6:44

health bar of says path a spoon. That

6:46

way you can stop into a grocery store

6:48

and grab a yogurt or even a pasta

6:50

salad for a quick snack. The aipac afford

6:52

new and London broil useful Just says pack

6:54

all dark colored clothes, easier to wash everything

6:57

in one go rather than needing to separate

6:59

your light to dark. Plus dark clothes

7:01

don't so stains as easily. Also.

7:03

You need fewer shoes than you think. Depending

7:05

on the type of trip, a pair of

7:08

comfortable smart sneakers will probably do it in

7:10

every situation. It certainly would have been enough

7:12

for my current trip to Japan. that's going

7:14

to see a sick of summers face And

7:17

they're so heavy! Yes, we have another Gretchen

7:19

who says I always packed a lightweight, reusable

7:21

tote bag one that can lay flat athlete

7:23

a bag Any tote bag that I got

7:26

for free as it can be used as

7:28

a pool or beach bag. or if I

7:30

buy too much for my luggage I couldn't

7:33

carry. It on and shack my

7:35

bags. I do this. You don't

7:37

discredit her. This is one of

7:39

my favorite Hard Yeah. Also a

7:41

small handheld battery operated or us

7:43

be chargeable san good for on

7:45

planes before the air is on

7:48

hotel room standing in lines of

7:50

airports. I was one sold by

7:52

a flight attendant that many of

7:54

them carry them for those exact

7:56

reasons. Excellent. Hell. He

7:58

says put names and Malkin Cape on the outside

8:01

of the passport. It sounds silly but a surprisingly

8:03

helpful for families are groups in a which passport

8:05

as which without having to flip open to the

8:07

picture page Each time I meant to do this

8:10

I have to say I got the passport was

8:12

like a sacred documents that you couldn't do that

8:14

too but I think as long as you're like

8:16

on the cover it should be fine and it

8:18

is a pain ten it is. I'm open to

8:21

and you never know which page the photo was

8:23

on am always having some remember where it, where's

8:25

the flow of wonder what if you grab the

8:27

wrong one and you're off and set Yet I

8:30

mean it's this is a brilliant that leader. Kim

8:33

said pack your sense of humor

8:35

has his onstage. you will need

8:37

it. Yes, Yes, it remember one of

8:39

my secrets of adulthood. Mishaps,

8:41

Often make the best memories. Christmas.

8:44

As I always packed. A plus mean it

8:46

with me when I travel. It has so

8:48

many uses. covers my head when the sun

8:50

is too strong, cover shoulders when going into

8:53

a church or mosques. Scarborough shoulder Rob if

8:55

you're chile or just add personality to an

8:57

outfit, it rolls up and sits in a

8:59

purse. Endless. He says. I always have this

9:02

when I travel because I did so cold.

9:04

Yes, even like despairing it over myself laying

9:06

on the bed and reading or such. as

9:08

rather, I'm messing up the nice bed. yes

9:10

Shannon said before a trip I make a

9:13

list. so my phone. Of everything I'm

9:15

packing which of course help say

9:17

organize during the packing process, but

9:19

after the trap I go through

9:21

the list in reverse identifying all

9:23

the things I packs but never

9:25

bothered to use or where. This

9:27

helps me plan for the next

9:29

time away, eliminating close accessories toiletries

9:31

that I'm prone to think I

9:33

need but actually don't Good Sentelle

9:35

said new one after this week's

9:37

trip to Toronto. Ring to phone

9:39

chargers, one for the hotel, one

9:41

for the rental car mask and

9:43

really drain. The battery moon.

9:45

Neither. Says Brian empty water bottle

9:48

that you can still after you

9:50

pass through security. Always good to

9:52

have water on hand. and you

9:54

know most airports now have water

9:56

bottle juggling classes. Didn't answer. you

9:58

know you're getting nice. In cold

10:00

water. Yeah, Genesis as packing caves

10:02

can keep you organized and say space especially

10:04

when packing for a family. Well one day

10:07

I'll say as you can also use a

10:09

plastic bag if you don't wanna buy parking

10:11

cubes. Their clear was a lot of people

10:13

like that in the packing keep. Those

10:15

of you and I are big fans of

10:18

the official backing see of you gave them

10:20

to me see our Christmas. I use them

10:22

all the time you get into Lies and

10:24

Eleanor. They use them constantly. Yes, I just

10:26

gave them to someone graduating high school. Yeah,

10:28

for college. Yes, they're the kind of thing

10:30

that for the rest of your. Life. You

10:32

can use as fucking suit. So

10:35

here's my hack entire and it's related

10:37

to the zip lock bags which is

10:39

pack anything that can leak in a

10:41

plastic bag and this could just be

10:43

like a grocery store plastic bag. but

10:45

you never regret it because his rise

10:47

rare that they leave the when they

10:50

league it's so bad is completely worth

10:52

the effort to put something in a

10:54

plastic bag and pack snacks. That's a

10:56

half for me. And here's a hack

10:58

that I just said Jamie is and

11:00

it reminded me of how clever this

11:02

is with his take a picture. Of

11:05

your room key or your room. So.

11:08

That you remember it if you don't or

11:10

like on where you parked your car because

11:12

it's easier to think. Oh of course I

11:15

remember it and then you just don't think

11:17

of it and then it's a big hassle.

11:19

So to thinking that quick photo configure lot

11:21

of time and energy. Yeah, We'll. Guards

11:24

Here's my hack and this is for

11:26

anybody who's traveling with dogs like a

11:28

road trip. pseudo Adam and I have

11:30

found would love taking nacho and easy

11:33

away from ya a few days my

11:35

hack it is. Bring more towels and

11:37

you think you need saw. Always worrying

11:40

a couple of towels when we have

11:42

the dogs with us or then I

11:44

found it's good to bring may be

11:46

an extra couple just is it has

11:49

somehow they'll get wet may get dirty

11:51

of you can put it over your.

11:53

Lap of they're going to sit on your

11:56

lap and the car for some reason and

11:58

maybe share this. Yeah, it's just. Good

12:00

that when you have a dog is

12:02

is better to have a towels and

12:04

not have a to the Us get

12:06

hack. Let us know if you do

12:08

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of whimsy. This is hilarious. I

14:44

have tried it, It works. This

14:47

comes from Juliet. She says you

14:49

mention the I phone like being

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great. Did you know you can

14:54

turn it on and off with

14:56

Harry Potter spells say Siri Lou

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most to turn it on add

15:01

Siri knocks to turn it off,

15:03

scrape for hims for use and

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a touch of whimsy. Your We

15:08

were talking in an earlier episode about

15:10

how handy it is to have a

15:12

flashlight on your smartphone, but who knew

15:14

that you could turn it on with

15:17

a verbal spell? Yes! Which is especially

15:19

handy if you're in the dark. Yes,

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Yes, Absolutely! And now for an interview.

15:23

We are so excited to be talking

15:25

to the legendary Telly River. Kelly Ripa

15:27

is an actor and told his in

15:30

daytime talk show host since two thousand

15:32

and one see as than the co

15:34

host of the morning talk show Live

15:36

with Kelly. And Mark in it's

15:38

various formats sense live with Regis

15:41

a Dolly. She's also the host

15:43

of the terrific new podcast let's

15:45

Talk off Camera And of all,

15:47

that's not enough. she's just published

15:50

her first book it's a New

15:52

York Times best seller, a collection

15:54

of essays called live Wire, long

15:56

winded short Stories and all read

15:59

the description. A Wire Her

16:01

first book Kelly shows what really makes

16:03

her tech. as a professional. as a

16:05

wife, as a daughter and as another,

16:08

she brings a hard earned wisdom and

16:10

an eye for the absurdity of life

16:12

isn't to every minute of every day.

16:15

it is her related below. the and

16:17

all of these roles that is earned

16:19

her fans worldwide and millions of followers

16:22

on social media. Whether recounting, has she

16:24

and Mark really mad the level of

16:26

chauvinism she experienced onset how Jersey Pride

16:29

follows her wherever she goes. And

16:31

many, many moments of utter mortification

16:33

once she proves that you could

16:35

not as bad as die of

16:37

embarrassment. Kelly always tells it like

16:39

it is Kelly. It takes no

16:41

prisoners. Illiteracy. Know What I just

16:44

realized is that the book is

16:46

called Live Wire And Her So

16:48

it's called Live and Eight Eight

16:50

and. Live. Wire made some

16:52

sense and didn't connected to the

16:55

Tv of It's that's a very

16:57

clever title. Very clever. Heck L

16:59

A hi Kelly Ladies. The. Exact

17:01

same way. I appreciate it. Were

17:03

so happy to be talking here.

17:05

We are now Kelly, you are

17:08

extremely candid. Your don't jive for

17:10

instance, you talk a lot about

17:12

the inner workings of your marriage,

17:14

behind the scenes of the Tv

17:16

show, and a lot of details

17:18

about your family and friends. And

17:20

the blog is how did you

17:23

decide where to draw the line

17:25

or do like draw. This is

17:27

not sell. I draw so many

17:29

line so I'm very careful. About.

17:32

What? I put in the but

17:34

I sent out the chapters that involves to

17:36

be in it's own as I like the

17:38

September. To correct

17:40

the record in any way to

17:42

make no patients to say you

17:45

know I remember it differently than

17:47

that and so I was very

17:49

careful. Any story that I at

17:52

tell in the bug our stories

17:54

that I've told either on the

17:56

air on my talk show who

17:58

are at dinner. Arnold where

18:00

it kind of public so

18:03

nothing is that mysterious it

18:05

is. It's really personal and

18:07

super private and a meant.

18:09

Excellent secret key moans. And

18:12

cries and inlays. If you were to say

18:14

to me in confidence you know between I.

18:16

Can. I tell you that it will

18:18

go to the grave with me because

18:21

I am excellent at keeping secrets. But

18:23

when things happen sort of publicly or

18:25

if something happens privately and it's ludicrous

18:28

and lanny my will say hey, do

18:30

you mind if I would help me

18:32

how how was this for you? Is

18:34

this away you recall? Do you like

18:37

this is? is there something to this

18:39

or would you prefer I'd take it

18:41

out entirely, so that's how I went

18:44

about writing the book. Was interesting to

18:46

say. Been to a reader or

18:48

viewer they feel like you're you're

18:50

be being so open about so

18:52

many things they feel like there's

18:54

they're getting everything. Would they don't

18:56

realize how the things that you're

18:58

not disclosing. So yeah they're else

19:00

has there's a will be as

19:02

six thousand and second noom unless

19:04

document that nobody would be interested

19:06

in reading as it was my

19:08

editor kite at two hundred pages

19:10

out of this book because wow

19:12

wow she actually said it may

19:14

be read as I did not.

19:16

Understand some of the things that were

19:19

left out. I thought some real gems

19:21

were left out of the boss and

19:23

you know, Terry Thornton in her infinite

19:26

wisdom said Kelly: Have you ever seen

19:28

a movie that's One hours. On

19:32

end when so she put it

19:34

in a language I could easily

19:36

understand and I said got it?

19:38

Okay. You're. Right? was this is

19:40

your first book or you just started

19:42

a podcast to. So you're doing new

19:44

things and you say in your book

19:46

the you always assume that you can

19:48

do anything which is remarkable and did

19:50

that help when you were first starting

19:52

with live with Regis and Kelly is

19:54

Zoc. Save you the courage to do

19:56

it. They say ignorance. And

19:59

because it. When when

20:01

you go into something not knowing

20:03

what it is you're under to

20:05

see you, come at it from

20:07

a blaze of joy and enthusiasm.

20:09

It's only for you, do it

20:11

for a while that you realize

20:13

oh my gosh, I've written off

20:15

so much more than I can

20:17

show. How do I? So I

20:19

like in myself to sort of

20:21

a human hamster? All of I

20:23

shove it all in my cheeks.

20:26

Good stuff. Jobs here and on

20:28

my I'll break this down Mayor.

20:30

All just work. I'm digesting this

20:32

at a later. Date: And

20:34

that's how I tackle everything. I

20:36

mean, that's how I tackled writing

20:39

the book. I actually thought that

20:41

because I talk for a living.

20:43

That. Writing a book would just. Be

20:46

like Tom when. In

20:48

fact, I realized quickly

20:50

said it was very

20:52

hard. For. Me and I am

20:55

an educated in that way.

20:57

I have no formal. Education

20:59

in terms of beyond high

21:02

school And so writing a

21:04

book was really profoundly difficult

21:06

experience for me. and it

21:08

took me along with your

21:10

chair. I mean that is,

21:12

as a writer about his

21:14

next Lama I I wore

21:16

out like chair and more

21:19

and more horrifying. I wore

21:21

out my biography six ago

21:23

I was still to this

21:25

day is. Like

21:27

fights. Nobody understands it.

21:29

I didn't send you a picture if

21:32

you promise not to share with us

21:34

but my fights is now school where

21:36

it's like a square. I can't figure

21:38

out how to fix it works. I

21:41

I work out a lot trying to

21:43

segment. I've done my for a needle

21:45

in to try to fix and will

21:47

go and I think it's just permanently

21:49

shaped like. A chair for sesno

21:52

rookie. Though it shows you put the

21:54

her kids who the fuck is nothing else

21:56

I was determined to do it myself. I

21:58

sat with my be did. Running fan

22:00

girl was that if I'm going

22:02

to do it and going to

22:05

do it myself a don't want

22:07

help doing it but therefore you

22:09

know physically in my furniture and

22:11

I definitely do you pay the

22:13

price. Was. A

22:15

just over a year ago you

22:18

lost your podcast let's Talk on

22:20

Camera which I am enjoying. So

22:22

my this one. As Kelly, you

22:24

make people so comfortable that they

22:26

say things they probably wouldn't normally

22:28

say. You

22:31

laugh with an evil wow Yeah He. Has.

22:35

Had something you've always been able

22:37

to do to get people to

22:39

confide. You mentioned your and a

22:41

secret keeper. Maybe that your heart

22:44

of it? Yeah I mean I

22:46

think that is it. There it's

22:48

It's sort of a multipart answer.

22:50

so I think that I've always

22:52

then when act of listener which

22:54

as you post know from from

22:56

what you do have been an

22:58

act of listener is part of

23:01

the squeezing the jews out of

23:03

the eleven and right way. I.

23:05

Also think that because our

23:07

podcast as off camera their

23:09

version relaxed environment surrounding that

23:11

that you just see people

23:14

even. I think even when

23:16

people are logging on to

23:18

do the podcast they're truly

23:20

not entirely. Convinced. That

23:23

it's off camera until they seem nice

23:25

had never really saw it really is

23:27

often. Ah ha ha ha ha ha

23:29

ha. The oh damnit of state sort

23:32

of relax back into their furniture. Or

23:34

and I we've done it. People have

23:36

been in their car picking up their

23:39

kids from school. I mean people do.

23:41

people do the podcast in myriad ways.

23:43

Carol Burnett did it over the telephone.

23:46

So we really a comet. We meet

23:48

people where they are in, there are

23:50

still in bed. Then we're. Still

23:52

in bed, and so

23:54

I think there's a

23:56

relaxed in nature around

23:58

that. Eight. The whole

24:00

formation for the podcast came

24:03

from people coming into my

24:05

dressing room after the talk

24:07

show and really, Telling.

24:10

Me the most interesting things

24:12

off camera. Because it was

24:14

off camera, it wasn't in

24:16

front of an audience and

24:18

we are very mindful of

24:20

sometimes people share things they

24:23

wish they hadn't and we

24:25

always allow everyone. The option to

24:27

pick out. Whatever they wish they

24:29

hadn't said I don't want to be the

24:32

person that I don't want to be the

24:34

one night stand that people vert ramps you

24:36

know or be a one night stand as

24:38

they go. Sat with grade and I'm so

24:41

amazing about the way and at went down.

24:44

Okay girly I want to do a rapid

24:47

fire a of questions to see if I

24:49

can tell your tendency if you're in a

24:51

folder cluster pleasurable some as if you classes

24:53

now course you have to take the quiz

24:56

to get like an actual answer. Gretchen Rubin.last.

24:58

With some know the hindu of last one

25:00

so I want to see. Okay so let

25:02

me ask you this. Have. You feel

25:04

about New Years resolutions. I feel that.

25:07

They are. Really nonsense.

25:10

However, I do like the

25:12

idea of setting an. Intention

25:15

with out and see.

25:19

How the art of feeling guilty if

25:21

it doesn't come to fruition are now?

25:23

Why are they nonsense? Edges

25:25

and I don't like the idea that

25:27

people put pressure starting out and new

25:29

year with up with the idea of

25:31

you could set yourself up for fall

25:34

track. Okay, do everything. Why can I

25:36

keep my promises to other people? But

25:38

I can keep my promises to myself.

25:41

You know, because I'm pretty good at

25:43

keeping my promises to Bone. I'm a

25:45

woman. Have my word cellphone. The woman

25:48

have my word to other people than

25:50

I am a woman. Have my word

25:52

to my mouth. Stupid people ever say.

25:54

That. Your rigid. In your schedule and I've

25:56

been apart from your work is obviously

25:59

are incredibly rude. No. Like a

26:01

new Playboy? Yeah, new. I'm

26:03

I'm pretty and and pretty

26:05

disciplined at my scheduling, even

26:07

even when I'm not working.

26:09

At it I have a routine. And

26:11

I I wouldn't be hard to. I

26:13

hate to say this, but I wouldn't

26:15

be hard to like assassinate. I've. Ever

26:19

seen And it is easy. I've never

26:22

deviate. Okay, so worthless and I think

26:24

I'm I'm getting a handle on. Yeah,

26:26

let's say you're never really really be

26:28

reached. Other let's say we're in a

26:30

coffee shop. read the bathroom. There's nobody

26:32

really around. There's a big sign that

26:35

says absolutely no cell phone use and

26:37

I pull on my cellphone and I

26:39

start using it. How do you feel.

26:41

I mean, I feel. I

26:43

am very i am uncomfortable because I

26:45

know that fine as there were not

26:48

following the role cause I'm a role

26:50

follower by nature but mostly I feel

26:52

bad that I have not been able

26:54

to hold your attend. Has.

26:59

A. Good. Mass My. However, I so

27:02

used to not holding people's attention.

27:04

Rapley I. This happens to me

27:06

all the time. My has been

27:09

pulls out his cell phone all

27:11

the time and utilizes it with

27:13

abandon. It's I'm friends with any

27:16

kind, one of the those great

27:18

cell phone manipulators during our conversations.

27:20

so I've like I can blaze

27:22

over it with a certain acceptance

27:25

because it's just a part of

27:27

daily life now. Hikes? Well, I'm.

27:29

Guessing. That you're in Upholder or a class

27:32

dinner I would have to like. dig a little

27:34

bit deeper to see a man. I'm going to

27:36

take the quiz. Yeah, yeah yeah. and there's no

27:38

pressure to have to act on and have fun.

27:40

I want you to figure me out. Yeah, I

27:43

wish we had like two hours because I would.

27:45

I would Love nothing. Heard sentences Harper, you have

27:47

classes and try to dial in. They

27:49

finally we ask every guess to do you

27:51

have a suggestion for a tried to saddam

27:54

suggest and something that that listeners can do

27:56

is this kind of the ordinary day. something

27:58

to be happier, healthier, More pronounced. That more

28:00

creative something. Something. That you

28:02

do or something that you wish

28:05

you did hundred percent some dance

28:07

with a reckless or and know

28:09

anywhere in your house Crank up

28:11

the music, whatever song you like,

28:13

Whatever song is your jam, whether

28:15

it's in the car or at

28:17

the dentist or wherever it is

28:19

that you're like, oh this is

28:22

my jam. Do

28:24

it a lot. I think in their part

28:26

I don't know, I don't drive a car

28:28

because I already, but I do that in

28:31

my earbuds. Button Downs.

28:33

Like no one is watching because if

28:36

your home alone chances are the on

28:38

is watching. That elevates

28:40

your mood. It elevates.

28:42

Your. Sort. Of ability

28:44

to conceptualize your life in ways

28:47

that you can imagine. That's a

28:49

great suggestion and as something that

28:51

you right away. So that's wonderful.

28:54

Were. Like. A charm even

28:56

if he works, even if you are

28:58

unable to move your body in that

29:01

way, If you crank up a song

29:03

that you love in your house and

29:05

you're seated, you're sat in your sofa,

29:07

your side in your chair, wherever you

29:10

can still. Use. The

29:12

rest of your. Body.

29:14

To just. Even. Your

29:16

your minds your of mine's by us.

29:18

You know that body in you're right.

29:21

You will get yourself there

29:23

by just. Cracking. Up

29:25

the music and letting yourself. Go it

29:27

when. It really works. It Is it

29:29

an immediate mood? Improve what this is

29:31

a great suggestion Research: Totally box you

29:33

op that listen to your one of

29:35

your favorite upbeat songs is one of

29:37

the quickest, easiest ways to intervene in

29:39

your mood. And if you're dancing around

29:41

and you just get all that exercise

29:43

is pumping more the more that's great.

29:45

I'm so glad that are back there

29:47

on out. It was gonna sign says

29:49

you have to dance or thank you

29:51

so much Cali This is so fun

29:54

to talk to you really appreciate a

29:56

single know my head scratching. And. Live! I'm

29:58

so impressed that you can work. Together

30:00

while you were with your husband said

30:02

that that seen harder than working with

30:04

the sister I know what where when

30:06

blood relative his. There's still that seems

30:08

to be like throwing the mystery between

30:10

ah guy cylinders issue between illicit than

30:12

me Maybe. That's part of why

30:14

it works seafood a window. settlers

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34:01

this is a repeat. Of. Marriage though I can't remember

34:03

for sure, but. Anyway, it's over the last

34:05

several weeks I'd been in situations where I've

34:07

been talking to a lot of people that

34:09

they don't usually see. For instance, I went

34:12

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a conference and when I do that I

34:16

I hear so many interesting stories and examples

34:18

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34:20

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34:23

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34:26

just didn't take enough. Node is sometimes I

34:28

did take notes, but sometimes you know I

34:30

didn't have my pen and paper at the

34:32

ready. I don't like pulling out my phone

34:34

and typing into it when I'm talking to

34:37

somebody. some other I don't know and even

34:39

pulling up papers sometimes takes you out of

34:41

the moment. We're having an intense conversation but

34:43

never really regret it. Settlers of you and

34:45

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34:48

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34:56

heard as it's really interesting half but now

34:59

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35:01

my marriage is always have pen and paper

35:03

and just pull it out even if they

35:05

feel that little awkward and the long run

35:07

I will be glad that a sickness yes

35:09

and I worst case I'll just tell somebody

35:11

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35:14

your ex my said yes. Yeah.

35:16

Especially podcast segment ideas out, text myself the

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idea and I just announce I'm doing it

35:20

in. The funny thing is I think people

35:22

actually son and feel flattered because they're like

35:24

a while, she really is hearing what I'm

35:26

saying or she's really interested in buying up.

35:28

So it it's not like they take it

35:31

a mess, it's just that it pulls me

35:33

out of the conversation, just sort of the

35:35

fussing. Yeah, but you're right, it's just it's

35:37

worth doing so as as take yourself what

35:39

is your gold star? That's my gold star

35:41

goes to the guy who helped me by

35:43

hiking boots so I needed to get some

35:45

hiking. Boots you know, real ones

35:47

which I've never had and have

35:50

like angles, supports and I was

35:52

at Ari I which was super

35:54

crowded because they were having a

35:56

big sale may on. This

35:58

guy was. The me with

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seven people out while Michael Hussey was

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don't said. Yes, He was

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was answering another question from someone

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was really admiring his ability to

36:33

help so many people to stay

36:35

calm but also focus on your

36:37

question when he wraps it and

36:39

not just blowing you off which

36:42

would have been I'm sure very

36:44

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36:46

was gold sark. Oh that's great.

36:49

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36:51

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36:53

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