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Jolene, your nutritional therapy practitioner, and

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Hey. Hey, there. So

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I've been doing some diving into my own

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personal patterns when it comes to a health or weight loss

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journey, as well as observing others.

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Now, there's plenty of people out there that

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go on a diet. They get healthy, they lose the weight,

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they reach goal, they maintain it, and it's great.

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And then there's the rest of us.

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And I fall in this category. We get

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two goal. We get half of the weight of goal.

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We get three quarters of the weight of goal, and something

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happens. We start self sabotaging.

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You know, we say, oh, well, we're not disciplined enough.

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We don't have enough willpower. And

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then you've got all the Internet saying, well, it has nothing to do with

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that. It's hormones, it's insulin, it's

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leptin, it's this, it's that. And now, there's also

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a group that fits in the category of what

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I'm talking about today that just can't get

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past a week or two. What

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if it's not necessarily

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hormones? Leptin,

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ghrelin, insulin,

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calories, discipline,

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willpower. What

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if it's so far out of

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our comfort zone to be seen that

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it's easier to hide behind our, fluff?

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There, I said it. I, for

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one, have lost anywhere from

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50 to 100 pounds

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three times in my adult life. I have lost

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lots of smaller increments of weight in between

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all of that. The very first

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time I lost a considerable amount of weight, I

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was in my twenties, and I was single.

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And it brought a lot of attention that I thought

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I wanted until I didn't.

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You see, when I was younger,

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I got teased a lot. I developed really

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young. My name is Jolene.

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I developed really young. You see where I'm

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going with this? I got teased and was called Dolly Parton

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all the time. And I got a lot of

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attention around, my body that

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I wasn't aware

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of how to deal with. I wasn't old enough

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because back in the seventies, girls

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didn't develop as young as I did. So I was

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not prepared for the attention

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surrounding my body. It wasn't like I

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was sexually abused. And I know some people out there

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were. And that takes it to a far

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further step than even where I'm going. But

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I didn't like the attention on my body.

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I can pinpoint. That is when I always kept a

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little extra fluff. Now, I was never

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really obese through my childhood, but I wasn't

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skinny. I had extra fluff. I hit it

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well, but I still had the extra fluff. And we're gonna leave it at

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that. But realizing

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that time and time again

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in my life, I've fallen back on hiding

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behind the fluff. Now

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I'm now at a point in my life

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where I can't hide

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behind that fluff. I need to be

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healthy. I have people depending on me

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that I need to take care of. So

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I am here today to say I

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understand it's easier

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not to be visible. There's a

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lot about how I've lived my life

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and not being visible. Being the quiet

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one, being everybody's friend,

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but also being very alone and not doing

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a lot with these friends. Everybody liked me,

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but I was the guy that hid in the corner. I was the

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quiet one. I was just the sidekick,

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which was fine. I don't regret it.

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But now

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is my time to

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step out of my comfort

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zone, to step out of

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being invisible. I mean, funny story here.

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My husband and I joke all the time that, when we're driving in my

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car, we're literally invisible because people will cut us

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off, turn in front of us like we're not even there.

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And sometimes that's how I feel like I live my

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life. And I want you to know

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that I see you

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struggling like I did and not knowing

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why I couldn't stick to

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anything. Now, I'm

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not a psychologist, I am not a mental health

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professional, but I am, a gen

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xer. And I know how to stuff those feelings

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aside. But the one thing I

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refuse to do right now is not to face that

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fear. Because if I fall,

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pray and let that fear win.

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I can't help you. And I have

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the knowledge and the desire and the

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empathy and the compassion because I've

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lived it to help you through

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the other side. Part of me

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sharing this is that I

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see too often the blame

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of excess weight, being pushed on, being

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lazy. your hormones are out of whack, you

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can't count calories, you can't exercise, you can't

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do this, you can't do that. I can't do this. That person's

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not doing that. Whatever it is, we need to

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stop. We need to

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stop. And even more

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importantly than stop with the blame

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game, we

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need to focus on, being the

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healthiest version of ourselves

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and stop looking at the outside

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appearance as health. Because

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like all of the blame, there are

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many reasons why we struggle to lose weight.

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Besides the invisibility thing, there are

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lots of health reasons. So

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why not focus on getting

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healthy and stop

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focusing on that damn scale. There's lots of

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reasons why we desire to lose

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weight, why we want to be smaller.

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However, if we're not healthy,

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we're just going to end up right where we are today or

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worse. And I know, I've

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been there. And part of being healthy is

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being aware of why we do certain

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things. Holistic health is

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complete health, mind, body and soul

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being in alignment.

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Now, I can't do anything

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about being teased as a kid. I'm 53. I will be 54 pretty soon.

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I can't do anything about that. But what

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I can do is m live

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in a way that my future self will

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be proud, not in a way

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that is a fearful because of my previous

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self, the old self, the self

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that anytime they were in a loving

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relationship, or they thought they were

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in a loving relationship and they gained a few pounds, the

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boyfriend would make a comment or leave. And

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that weight became the issue. And it was

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easier to hide behind the

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excess weight than truly

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live as my best self. And I for

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one want to be my best self.

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I for one want to take

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all of the health knowledge I have,

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as well as all of the struggles I have had

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in the past 53, almost 54

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years, and help you through yours

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and be a visible person.

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Now, I'm not going to take you on

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some sappy trauma, whatever

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journey. That's not my thing. My thing is for you

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today is to look at

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your patterns and figure out

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why you hide behind your

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fluff, why you struggle

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so much to get over into

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the healthy range. What is

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it? Are you afraid? Afraid that your friends are going to walk away

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from you because you don't want to eat all the junk food or drink

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like they do? Figure it

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out. And then

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you can take a step, a tippy toe step, a

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very little step outside of that comfort zone.

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Maybe it's going out with your

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girlfriends and not drinking one night,

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just once, and see how it is. See how they

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react. Tell them your health depends on

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it. But do it small,

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do it what's comfortable.

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Take the steps that you are

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comfortable taking that are outside

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of your comfort zone. Now, that

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might seem a, little bit weird to say. And you're

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like, huh? Huh? What I mean

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is, find a

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small step in. You can make

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that you're comfortable trying that's outside

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of that comfort zone. That'll push you outside.

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You see small changes,

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small habits lead

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to big changes in the end.

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And you might just be surprised that those

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people that you think might flee you from doing whatever

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or that negative attention you got when you were

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younger probably won't happen now.

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We're not that person one. We're much

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stronger to tell the people to shut up. And if you're

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not, hang with me for a while and I will help you

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through that. But y'all know as we start hitting our

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fifties, our give a damn button starts getting,

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like, stronger and stronger, where we just don't give a damn.

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It's time to be your healthiest

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self. You've lived in the shadows

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way, way too long. And

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as I'm recording this, I want you to know what

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I am m saying is, as much for you as

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it is for me, it's time

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we all blossomed. It's time

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we take our health seriously. Because with the food

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we eat, our confidence increases. It's not

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a physical thing. It's a mental thing. We are

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giving our brain the food it

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needs to be happy. As

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you have more energy, you move more,

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you start enjoying things

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more. It's a process

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that keeps going. So I

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seriously would love for you to

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join me on this journey of

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ditching the scale and

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focusing solely on complete

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health. Your health. You

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are worth it. And you are worth

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shining. Shining through the

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darkness and being that light to your

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family, to your friends, to whoever

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it is you want to be that light

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for. I can tell you with

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1000% confidence

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that if you focus only

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on the weight, you, a, may never get healthy, and

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b, you may never find that happiness

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you're looking for. Your physicality does not bring you

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happiness. Finding things you love

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to do and bring joy to

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others brings you happiness.

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If you have self confident issues now,

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with a little bit of fluff, you're gonna have self

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confidence in issues as a thin

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person. Been there, done that,

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own the t shirt. So, it's time.

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We are midlifers and beyond.

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Maybe you're not quite in midlife, but there is no

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better time than today than to

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work on your health holistically. Holistic health, I used to think,

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meant natural, doing things the

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natural way. Well, I gotta tell you, holistic

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health is whole health.

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Mind, body, soul,

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spirit, whatever you believe in. It

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is a process where you are a

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complete person at the end, where you are

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completely present in your family, you are

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completely present when you're by yourself. You are

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completely present when you're with friends.

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It has nothing to do with your physical

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appearance. It has to do

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solely with your health, your

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mental health, your physical health,

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and believing that you're part of, something

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bigger than yourself.

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I appreciate you listening. I

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appreciate that you are on this journey with me,

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and I would appreciate it even more

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if you would link my arms and do it with me

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each step. So the first step today, your

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homework is look at your patterns, see

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why you're more comfortable, even if

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you're physically uncomfortable. We sometimes

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are mentally more comfortable, a little fluffy,

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and then say, I'm worth being

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healthy. That's it. That's all I want you

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to do. No changes, no nothing else.

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Look at your patterns and then say

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to yourself, I am worth being healthy.

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You see, for those of us who use

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fluff as a comfort, if we solely focus on

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our health, we'll get to our end goal.

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So I'm going to leave you with this, and you're going to hear

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it from me more and more and more.

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Health first. Don't worry about the

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rest. Just focus on, being the healthiest

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version of yourself. On, that note, friends, I will see you next time.

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Bye. Thanks for listening in today.

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